Saturday, March 21, 2020

APRIL 2020 BLOG









THE GREAT SHIFT – UNCHARTED TERRITORY


We are now experiencing a collective shift in our global society. In the past blog I reflected upon the many plagues that came as teachers to all societies indicating the need to shift our understanding of Nature. That is the way humans have evolving – pestilence, war, famine and pandemics to name a few, coming upon humanity over thousands of years. Therefore, we were forced to evolve as biological beings, mental (psychological) beings and spiritual beings. It is like a collective rite of passage created by a sense of darkness coming into a light of understanding and awakening to the reality that we are all one.

Now the global community is facing the new reality that asks us to take hold of our old sense of connectedness. The coronavirus is saying that we are all in this together and evolving together.

This pandemic is unlike anything any of us have ever experienced in modern times.

Whether we’re facing sudden economic hardship, fear for our health and the health of those we love, grief over a devastating loss, or the unnerving prospect of being homebound for months, all of us are being challenged to rapidly adapt to a life and a world we couldn’t have imagined a few months ago.

This collective fear and anxiety lead us to the eventual fear of death. Yet, our body says: “STOP”! We must face our feelings and be present to what is. Whether it is our fear of abandonment and left alone or being overwhelmed by the on-going spread of the virus, we feel sick without the actual disease taking hold of our body. The collective need to STOP and listen to our body and at the same time listen to NATURE – our mother Earth. 

The human SOUL seeks to evolve and to grow by making the journey into darkness (the unknown). Therefore, all the events we are accustomed to, as usual; like travel restrictions, closure of religious places, self-isolation and so on, are teaching us to seek the inner place of soul.

What is going on? Here is a wonderful inspiring quote by Richard Hendrick OFM:

“Suddenly I woke up one day and everything changed, all Disney magic faded, the Chinese wall was not as strong, now New York sleeps, and no roads lead to Rome. A virus is crowned as the owner of the world and gave us an account of our frailty. We do not know if the damage is deliberately or is an irresponsibility by  ourselves, but the threat is there -  stronger every day, and memes do not cause much laughter, hugs and kisses were transformed into dangerous weapons and product shortages  show us once again how selfish we are, so selfish that some  say: "no problem this virus only takes oldies" as if we never had our parents or as if we were not going to be old ever.

We want to assert our "right" to decide whether to let live or not to others and now we realize that we cannot even decide for our own life. A planet that today is not only a mask for a virus but also covers our vulnerability mixed with pride and so we wash your hands for not recognizing our responsibility just as the ancient Pontius Pilate.

If there is fear. If there is insulation. Yes, there is panic buying. Yes, there is disease Yes, there is even death.”

Fr. Richard Hendrick, OFM - March 13, 2020





But they say in Wuhan after so many years of noise you can hear the birds again.

They say that after a few weeks of silence, the sky is no longer filled with smoke but blue and clear.    
They say that in the empty streets of Assisi people are singing from their homes and keeping their windows open in balconies so that those who are alone can hear the voices of families around.              
They say a hotel in the west of Ireland provides free meals and home delivery.

Today a young woman I know is busy handing out flyers for the neighbourhood with her phone number so that the elderly can have someone to call.

Today churches, synagogues, mosques and temples are preparing to welcome
and protect the homeless, sick and tired.

Around the world people are decelerating and reflecting.

Around the world, people look to their neighbours in a new way.

Around the world people are waking up to a new reality. So strong that we really are. What little control we really have.  TO LOVE is what really matters.

Then we pray and remember that:

Yes, if there is fear, there must not be hatred.

If there is insulation, but we do not have to be alone.
Yes, there is panic buying, but there must not be no selfishness.
Yes, there is illness, but the disease does not have to be a disease of the soul.
Yes, there is even death, but there can always be a revival of love.
Wake up and choose how to live today.
Today breathe, pause and listen behind the torments of your fear.
Birds sing again, the sky is clearing, spring is coming, and we are always surrounded by love.
Open the windows of your soul and if you cannot walk on an empty street, so DANCE at home.”


CONCLUSION


This is the time that Nature is giving us as a gift for all – rich or poor. It is said that 65 billionaires in the world have more money than the 300 million poor. Hope that they will help - eh? But we need to take a positive attitude and do what we wished to do when we had so much work and had no time to enjoy PEACE.

So here is a suggestion or two:

1.       Develop a daily ritual with your family. Yoga - like the FIVE TIBETANS. (see YouTube for a
demo).

2.       Summon the elders and spiritual teachers by creating a sacred space and arrange the four directions: NORTH, SOUTHEAST & WEST – stand in the middle and call your teachers and then Listen.

3      Pay attention to the energy that heals:    

    Body – experience your body energy.

      Intellect – become aware of your symbolic imagination.

     Soul – enter the place of the heart and note the mythic messages.

       Spirit – become aware of the essence of the universe (Nature) speaking. Stay calm in a solitary space like a forest.


Recommended book:

Plotkin, Bill. Soulcraft: Crossing into the Mysteries of Nature and Psyche. New World Library. Kindle Edition, 2003.

Bill Plotkin’s prophecy:

“When we have the situation beyond our individual souls. The industrial world seeks to exploit this lovely planet with its flowering meadows, its sky-reaching forests, its flowing streams, the wildlife of its forests and fields until only remnants will exist. Yet now, as we begin the twenty-first century, we start to realize that the industrial world has had its day. Those of us who have lived through its twentieth-century dominance believe, as I do, that a new age is dawning. The industrial-commercial world can go no further.”

Michael Meade podcast




Sunday, March 1, 2020

MARCH 2020 BLOG




                BEWARE OF THE IDES OF MARCH
THE TEN PLAGUES OF EGYPT IN THE MODERN DAY CONTEXT



Dear Reader,

We are entering the month of March and historically this month has many premonitions and warnings. From the Greek ancient history, the great Julius Cesar was assassinated on March 15th. As the story goes. Everyone knows that the soothsayer in William Shakespeare's "Julius Caesar" was talking about March 15 when he warned the Roman emperor to "beware the Ides of March." We also all know Caesar's response: "Nah, I gotta head into the office that day."


Death of Julius Cesar



The story and Shakespeare drama lives on as a reminder that changes happen and the time between seasons are the ones to watch. We also have learned about the ten plagues of Egypt when the Pharaoh did not listen to Moses and suffered devastating plagues. So, here we go again – the global plague is upon us. But first I want to reflect on the biblical ten plagues” from the more modern and scientific perspective.

Scholars broadly agree that the Exodus is not a historical account, and that the Israelites originated in Canaan and from the Canaanites. Most scholars nevertheless believe that the Exodus has a historical basis of some kind, even if this does not closely resemble the biblical narrative. The Ipuwer Papyrus, written probably in the late Twelfth Dynasty of Egypt (c. 1991–1803 BCE), has been put forward in popular literature as confirmation of the Biblical account, most notably because of its statement that "the river is blood" and its frequent references to servants running away; however, these arguments ignore the many points on which Ipuwer contradicts Exodus, such as Asiatics arriving in Egypt rather than leaving and the likelihood that the "river is blood" phrase is simply a poetic image of turmoil. Attempts to find natural explanations for the plagues (e.g., a volcanic eruption to explain the "darkness" plague) have been dismissed by biblical scholars on the grounds that their pattern, timing, rapid succession, and above all, control by Moses mark them as supernatural.



 THE TEN PLAGUES OF EGYPT


1.       The river Nile covered in blood - possible spread of red algae.

2.       Frogs or poisonous toads - frogs breed in times of river floods.

3.       Lice and ticks - animals distribute ticks to humans.

4.       Swarms of flies - common event in hot weather.

5.       Sick domestic animals - common in areas not cared for.

6.       Skin rashes and boils - common in hot climates.

7.       Land fires - dry weather and storms cause fires.

8.       Locusts - common pests in Africa.

9.       Three days of darkness - possible eruption of a volcano.

10.   Death of children - viruses common in children before vaccines.




History and science.

Scholars are in broad agreement that the publication of the Torah took place in the mid-Persian period (the 5th century BCE). The Book of Deuteronomy, composed in stages between the 7th and 6th centuries, mentions the "diseases of Egypt" (Deuteronomy 7:15 and 28:60) but refers to something that afflicted the Israelites, not the Egyptians, and never specifies the plagues.

The traditional number of ten plagues is not actually mentioned in Exodus, and other sources differ; Psalms 78 and 105 seem to list only seven or eight plagues and order them differently. It appears that originally there were only seven (which included the tenth), to which were added the third, sixth, and ninth, bringing the count to ten.

In this final version, the first nine plagues form three triads, each of which God introduces by informing Moses of the main lesson it will teach. In the first triad, the Egyptians begin to experience the power of God; in the second, God demonstrates that he is directing events; and in the third, the incomparability of Yahweh is displayed. Overall, the plagues are "signs and marvels" given by the God of Israel to answer Pharaoh's taunt that he does not know Yahweh: "The Egyptians shall know that I am the LORD.” (Wikipedia)

What is a plague?

PLAGUE (in Gr.) λοιμός, in Lat. pestis, pestilentia), in medicine, a term given to any epidemic disease causing a great mortality, and used in this sense by Galen and the ancient medical writers, but now confined to a special disease, otherwise called Griental, Levantine, or Bubonic Plague, which may be shortly defined as a specific infectious fever, one variety being characterized by buboes (glandular swellings) and carbuncles. This definition excludes many of the celebrated pestilences recorded in history -such as the plague of Athens, described by Thucydides; that not less celebrated one which occurred in the reign of Marcus Aurelius and spread over nearly the whole of the Roman world (A.D. 164–180), which is referred to, though not fully described, by the pen of Galen; and that of the 3rd century (about 253), the symptoms of which are known from the allusions of St Cyprian.  There is a certain resemblance between all these, but they were very different from Oriental plague. “ The Plague” was formerly divided into two chief varieties: (1) mild plague, pestis minor, larval plague (Radcliffe), paste fruste, in which the special symptoms are accompanied by little fever or general disturbance; and (2) ordinary epidemic or severe plague, pestis major, in which the general disturbance is very severe. Cases which are rapidly fatal from the general disturbance without marked local symptoms have been distinguished as fulminant plague.

The new plague or CORONAVIRUS

In spite the current amazing scientific developments and cures, the smart virus today has come out taking the world. This is definitely called the “ FULMINANT” type of plague. Here is the latest news:

Global death toll from coronavirus now more than 3,000 and growing.

The coronavirus death toll in mainland China increased by 42 Sunday (March 1), according to China’s National Health Commission (NHC). All the new deaths were in Hubei province.

The additional deaths bring the total death toll in mainland China to 2,912.

There have been 129 deaths reported outside mainland China, raising the global death toll to 3,041.

Confirmed cases in mainland China increased by 202. Of those cases, 193 were in Hubei province. That means there were nine new cases reported in the rest of mainland China outside of Hubei.

Other deaths across the globe include:

54 deaths in Iran
34 deaths in Italy
20 deaths in South Korea
12 deaths in Japan
2 deaths each in Hong Kong and France.

1 death each reported in the Philippines, Taiwan, Australia, Thailand and the United States
The total number of confirmed cases in mainland China is now 80,026, bringing the global total to 88,443. A total of 44,462 patients in China have recovered and been discharged from hospital.

Battle against bubonic plague 100 years ago

Conclusion

History tells us of many plagues over time but not much about a total GLOBAL plague or PANDEMIC that is testing our modern science and technology. It is amazing to read that the solution to avoid coronavirus is to keep washing your hands and avoid contact in public places. There is no vaccine – as yet – and time will tell and surely we will come up with a vaccine like it was done before. But we must be AWARE and learn from history!

Your comments are most welcome

Yaro Starak






Thursday, January 30, 2020

FEBRUARY 2020 - MOTHER EARTH HITS BACK






MOTHER EARTH HITS BACK!




Dear Reader,

I think that it is time for a very serious reflection about how we, as humans, are treating our home called EARTH. This is a malpractice that has been going on for thousands of years. A slow but consistent abuse of the resources of this globe that historically were considered unlimited. We are coming to a time where the planet Earth is taking the road of ‘self-extinction’ due to the human disregard to care for it. We now call this phenomenon “climate change” as if the planet climate alone is the cause of so many critical events. I choose to call it “Gaia revenge” (more about this later).
My mentor Michael Meade spent most of his career as a mythologist and storyteller. His podcasts are amazing with abundant prophecies about what is now appearing as a global and human crisis. Listen to his podcast here:









So now we are entering the new year 2020 – a year that in the Chinese culture is called: “The Year of the Rat”. This is a strong urge for us to reflect about the meaning of this symbol:

In Chinese culture, rats are used to symbolise wealth and surplus. Traditionally married couples would pray to these rodents hoping some of their reproductive success would rub off on them. Rats are found all over the world and regarded in the Chinese zodiac as being smart and nimble with plenty of vitality and enterprising spirit. (google)




The Chinese Zodiac states good fortune as the rat is smart and able to outwit many challenges to survive. However, we may ask: why is the rat so feared and hated in many cultures? The ‘shadow’ aspect of the rat is well known as a fast multiplier (up to 5000 babies a year). This alone is an interesting evidence that China is so populated that once the government issued a “one baby per family policy” and it is an example of the spread of current CORONA VIRUS that is multiplying faster that a rat now. The virus started (according to the health authorities in Wuhan, a city of 11 million of people). And in a few weeks over 150 people died and about 7,000 infected and raising. Nearly 60 million Chinese are in ‘lock down’ and other cities in Europe, Canada and Australia have been infected as I write this. The WHO organization just declared an international public health emergency.

This news (ongoing) is only a small portion of the many huge global disastrous events. EARTH MOTHER IS ANGRY! The Goddess myth that most modern folk do not acknowledge. We damage the Mother Earth and all that is Nature. We are all damaging motherhood; she is the creator of birth and death. This is a powerful idea. The Indians call her DEVI

Mother Devi has come giving her wrath to all – some include:

1.       Australia on fire – millions of animals burned

2.       Floods in Spain devastating whole villages

3.       Snowstorms in North America closing all traffic land and air

4.       Earthquakes and Volcanoes emerging from the sea and land

5.       In Africa come huge swarms of locusts that are bigger than ever

     The whole continent of Africa is seething with poverty and disease created mainly by the corrupt leaders who are worse than the locusts swarming the continent. Here are some of the ‘invisible’ stories that most media are ignoring:

a.       HAITI 22% of children are malnourished every day

b.       ETHIOPIA 84% of people live from agriculture, but heavy droughts keeps killing the land

c.       MADAGASCAR is now described as the “frontier of climate change” experience cyclones and drought and a decimation of people with bubonic illnesses

d.       DRC – Republic of CONGO is experiencing 20 years of violence and terrorism and Ebola virus

e.  PHILIPPINES 3.8 million of people suffered incalculable damages from typhoons and tropical cyclones

f.        A major earthquake just exploded (7.7 scale) between Cuba and Jamaica

And so, on and on. More information is available on the real news media about BURKINA FASO, LAKE CHAD BASIN, KENYA, ERITREA, BURUNDI, ZAMBIA and more. Many media have given up reporting as the issues are not resolved.

Some so called ‘climate change’ sceptics (most in politics and business), tend to ignore 20 years of scientific research, state that these events are natural disasters that have been with us for centuries. Climate disturbance as we experience now, speak for themselves: WE ARE LIVING THE CONSEQUENCES of human greed, abuse of the environment, excesses of exploitation of natural resources and killing our water, air and land. Mother Nature or Devi or Gaia is returning with great force and giving us some opportunity for reflection and ACTION!

WHAT NOW?

Michael Meade talks about HUMAN VITALITY. We need to speak with a living voice and vitality. This is already happening with our youth (Greta) and many others that are linking together with a global answer and ways to repair what we have been killing for centuries. This link is an invisible thread that brings the LIVING VOICE to the world. William Stafford a great US poet stated in his poem:


There’s a thread you follow. It goes among
things that change. But it doesn’t change.
People wonder about what you are pursuing.
You have to explain about the thread.
But it is hard for others to see.
While you hold it, you can’t get lost.
Tragedies happen; people get hurt
or die; and you suffer and get old.
Nothing you do can stop time’s unfolding.
You don’t ever let go of the thread.

William Stafford, poet

Tuesday, December 31, 2019

RETURN OF THE GODDESS - JANUARY 2020










JANUARY 2020 BLOG – INANNA, THE RETURN OF THE GODDESS ARCHETYPE

Dear Reader,

As the 2020 is appearing on the horizon of the new decade, I am reflecting on the many aspects of the Masculine energy as written in my blog in 2019 (see my previous notes). What really became very obvious to me, is that the Feminine Archetype was missing, and it was really missing for several thousand years. So, I was very intrigued by the ancient myths and stories that were very common about 5,000 years ago until the masculine gods and the new religions put aside the Goddess.  

Now, I want to reflect on the return of the Goddess. It seems that she was ‘dormant’ and/or went ‘invisible’ as the masculine deities were busy making wars, conquests and establishing empires. The Christian church dominated everywhere and considered the “myth” of the goddess not sacred and only Mary, the mother of Christ, was venerated. The veneration of the Goddess ISHTAR- INANNA was forbidden and even the follower of Christ, Mary Magdalene was defined as a prostitute. Sex became a sin and only allowed in marriage.

As we approach the new decade, we are experiencing the emergence of the Goddess Archetype. The many feminist movements, movie heroines and female protagonists like, for example, the female warrior called Rey.  She becomes the ‘last jedi ’in the final Star Wars movie.

My feeling is that consciously or not, Rey was based on the ancient Goddess Inanna. Inanna-Ishtar story is very powerful and here is a short description of her in Wikipedia:



 Inanna: mural from 3,000bc



Inanna is an ancient Mesopotamian goddess associated with love, beauty, sex, desire, fertility, war, justice, and political power. She was originally worshipped in Sumer and was later worshipped by the Akkadians, Babylonians, and Assyrians under the name Ishtar. She was known as the "Queen of Heaven" and was the patron goddess of the Eanna temple at the city of Uruk, which was her main cult centre. She was associated with the planet Venus and her most prominent symbols included the lion and the eight-pointed star. Her husband was the god Dumuzid (later known as Tammuz) and her sukkal, or personal attendant, was the goddess Ninshubur (who later became the male deity Papsukkal).

Inanna was worshipped in Sumer at least as early as the Uruk period (c. 4000 BC – c. 3100 BC), but she had little cult prior to the conquest of Sargon of Akkad. During the post-Sargonic era, she became one of the most widely venerated deities in the Sumerian pantheon, with temples across Mesopotamia. The cult of Inanna-Ishtar, which may have been associated with a variety of sexual rites, was continued by the East Semitic-speaking people who succeeded the Sumerians in the region. She was especially beloved by the Assyrians, who elevated her to become the highest deity in their pantheon, ranking above their own national god Ashur. Inanna-Ishtar is alluded to in the Hebrew Bible and she greatly influenced the Phoenician goddess Astoreth, who later influenced the development of the Greek goddess Aphrodite. Her cult continued to flourish until its gradual decline between the first and sixth centuries AD in the wake of Christianity, though it survived in parts of Upper Mesopotamia as late as the eighteenth century.

Inanna appears in more myths than any other Sumerian deity. Many of her myths involve her taking over the domains of other deities. She was believed to have stolen the Mes, which represented all positive and negative aspects of civilization, from Enki, the god of wisdom. She was also believed to have taken over the Eanna temple from An, the god of the sky. Alongside her twin brother Utu (later known as Shamash), Inanna was the enforcer of divine justice; she destroyed Mount Ebih for having challenged her authority, unleashed her fury upon the gardener Shukaletuda after he raped her in her sleep, and tracked down the bandit woman Bilulu and killed her in divine retribution for having murdered Dumuzid. In the standard Akkadian version of the Epic of Gilgamesh, Ishtar asks Gilgamesh to become her consort. When he refuses, she unleashes the Bull of Heaven, resulting in the death of Enkidu and Gilgamesh's subsequent grapple with his mortality.

 Indian temple of Ishtar


Inanna-Ishtar's most famous myth is the story of her descent into and return from Kur, the ancient Sumerian Underworld, a myth in which she attempts to conquer the domain of her older sister Ereshkigal, the queen of the Underworld, but is instead deemed guilty of hubris by the seven judges of the Underworld and struck dead. Three days later, Ninshubur pleads with all the gods to bring Inanna back, but all of them refuse her except Enki, who sends two beings to rescue Inanna. They escort Inanna out of the Underworld, but the Galla, the guardians of the Underworld, drag her husband Dumuzid down to the Underworld as her replacement. Dumuzid is eventually permitted to return to heaven for half the year while his sister Geshtinanna remains in the Underworld for the other half, resulting in the cycle of the seasons.

This is an amazing story that even the Christian Bible developed the myth of Adam and Eve and the resurrection of Christ based on the goddess story. The name ISHTAR is considered by some historians as the name for EASTER.

The story about Inanna visiting the underworld and stripped naked and then killed may be an indication as to how the Feminine was destroyed and given a sinful image in the Christian religion.

"After she had crouched down and had her clothes removed, they were carried away. Then she made her sister Erec-ki-gala rise from her throne, and instead she sat on her throne. The Anna, the seven judges, rendered their decision against her. They looked at her – it was the look of death. They spoke to her – it was the speech of anger. They shouted at her – it was the shout of heavy guilt. The afflicted woman was turned into a corpse. And the corpse was hung on a hook.

CONCLUSION

The return of the Goddess, as depicted in the journey of Inanna, offers a chance for something to be born, recovered or renewed. Inanna-Ishtar, the Queen of Heaven, was respected as one with every type of talent, deserving adoration, and many powers. She takes the Journey because of a desire for change.

It is a great hope that the return of the Goddess Archetype will manifest in the coming decade, a space for change, peace and a cooperation with all cultures. In the case of climate change, she tells us: “CHANGE OD DIE”! We are given the gift of change and the power to shift our priorities in life.

 The return of the Goddess will be the way!

Here is a link for you to listen to Anna Parker about the story of Mary Magdalene. MUST LISTEN!







HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!





More modern Inanna-Ishtar



Friday, November 29, 2019

DECEMBER 2019 - THE FUTURE OF MEN AND MASCULINITY







THE FUTURE OF MEN AND MASCULINITY













Dear Reader,



This is my last reflection for 2019. It is December again! Young people have a different sense of time passing by. They seem to complain that a day is soooo long and nothing to do, while older people say, “where has the day gone?”

So, I am reflecting on a theme that I spent writing a lot this year (see my earlier blog posts) and the central theme that attracted me most is MASCULINITY and how the modern social networks, with their male bashing statements, have damaged men roles and especially many are vilifying young men.

My reflections ask: what is the future of Masculinity? What will the future bring as we examine this crisis in masculinity today? What are the possible solutions?

Australian archaeologist Peter McAllister said, "I have a strong feeling that masculinity is in crisis. Men are really searching for a role in modern society; the things we used to do aren't in much demand anymore". Others see the changing labour market as a source of stress. Deindustrialization and the replacement of smokestack industries by technology have allowed more women to enter the labour force, reducing its emphasis on physical strength.

The crisis has also been attributed to the questioning of male dominance and rights granted to men solely based on sex following the feminist movement. British sociologist John MacInnes wrote that "masculinity has always been in one crisis or another", suggesting that the crises arise from the "fundamental incompatibility between the core principle of modernity that all human beings are essentially equal (regardless of their sex) and the core tenet of patriarchy that men are naturally superior to women and thus destined to rule over them". Film scholar Leon Hunt also writes: "Whenever the masculinity 'crisis' actually started, it certainly seems to have been in place by the 1970s". (Source – Wikipedia)

Historically, it is mainly in times of physical, economic and spiritual downfall that societies turned to the future hoping for ‘better times’ to come. The crisis today is the way men are being put in a “toxic men box” and therefore the future of men is uncertain.

A study at the Queensland University of Technology: THE MAN PROJECT, confirmed the apocalyptic state that men and mostly young men are going through. Here are some facts to consider and become aware of and share with your male friends:

1.       One in five men experience depression in a 12 months period.



2.       Three quarters of people who die of suicide are men.



3.       Six men in Australia between the age of 15 to 44, take their lives daily.



4.       One in five men will experience a chronic anxiety condition.



5.       Men are less likely to seek help for mental health issues than women.



6.       Men buy more take away junk food and eat a lot of sugary teats on a weekly basis.



7.       Only 7% of men eat enough vegetables.



8.       Men 55 and over do not drink enough water.



9.       Two in five men drink alcohol at a risky level.



10.   54% of men are unhappy with their body shape and weight and suffer of digestive discomfort.



11.   Men become depressed more often in a breakup of a relationship.



NOTE: The Qld. Government is funding a HEALTHY LIFESTYLE program and provide free health coaching to prevent serious diseases such as heart attacks, strokes and diabetes to become a chronic illness. Call: 13 74 75



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Conclusion

In their book “Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys”, Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson wrote that although all boys are born loving and empathic, exposure to gender socialization (the tough male ideal and hypermasculinity) limits their ability to function as emotionally healthy adults. According to Kindlon and Thompson, boys lack the ability to understand and express emotions productively because of the stress imposed by masculine gender roles.

A couple of quotes from mature men:

"I don't think a man has to go around shouting and play-acting to prove he is something. And a real man doesn’t go around putting other guys down, trampling their feelings in the dirt, making out they're nothing". Joe Frazier - Boxing champion.



A real man loves his wife and places his family as the most important thing in life. Nothing has brought me more peace and content in life than simply being a good husband and father. Frank Abagnale From the book: "Catch me if you Can"



The future of men, then, lies in enabling young men to break the old stereotype of a MACHO MAN. Elders as Mentors are needed to contact young men everywhere and share with them how we can jointly construct a fare and happy future.

Reference:

Kindlon, Dan; Thompson, Michael (2000), "The road not taken: turning boys away from their inner life", in Kindlon, Dan; Thompson, Michael (eds.), Raising Cain: protecting the emotional life of boys, New York: Ballantine Books, pp. 1–20, ISBN 9780345434852.

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Tuesday, November 5, 2019

NOVEMBER BLOG - 2019



THE GERBIL IN A CAGE AND DUCK SOUP









 NOVEMBER -  2019 BLOG  REFLECTIONS YARO

Dear readers,

Lately, I have been inspired by the late old master and principal founder of Gestalt Therapy Dr. Fritz Perls. His autobiography “In and Out of the Garbage Pail,” (1970) written and published by Bob Hall is still in my memory. It was his last book written about one year before his death. My own Gestalt teacher and Mentor Jorge Rosner was a close friend of Fritz and spent many years with him at Esalen, CA. and Chicago. When Fritz was ill with pancreatic cancer, he made two major decisions: first to call his wife Laura in New York and second, he refused to stay in bed when the nurse ordered him to do so. He told the nurse: “I will not be told what to do!” then he stood up and then fell on the bed and died. The year was 1970.

Re-reading his autobiography, I am inspired by his clear and direct way to express himself in the ‘here and now’. I want to write like he did – just starting with a short verse by Fritz:
“In and out the garbage pail
Put I my creation
Be it lively, be it stale
Sadness or elation”

Yet, he admits that he wants to impress, to show off…he wrote poetry as a young man in Berlin in 1934. I also want to ‘show off’ that I write poetry and even published a book and now am writing Haiku poems. Japanese Haiku is written in only three lines but show the whole ‘gestalt’ - the full image in words to state the whole.

Fritz wrote in “verbatim” form, just as the words came out of his thinking without editing but letting the mind flow like a river. I am sitting at my writing desk and begin to let ‘the river flow’ -  just writing the sentences as they emerge from my thinking without rehearsing: “what to say?” More about Fritz:

Frtiz shifted from Freud to Existentialism. Like me, I stopped reading Freud’s books and entered the world of “BE HERE NOW” In 1971. Most if not all of Freud’s discoveries as an analyst, became obsolete with the latest brain research and neuropsychology. Gestalt became a ‘cool’ therapy in my training years and continued into the 90’s and up to 2012.

I agree with Fritz that all theories and hypothesis are simply fantasies about how the world functions. Once they are verified and are applicable in actual practice (evidence based), they become reality. All ideas are articles of faith (like all religions) and the same applies to my attitude towards Gestalt today.
As I experience the ‘gestalt world’ today, I see and feel that the field is becoming more and more an intellectual (mind) exercise in the training institutes and the courses look more and more like some sort of academic ‘brain washing’ of students learning Gestalt therapy. We are split between the experiential and experimental gestalt approach and the rules and theories that are written in books. Now this structured curriculum is called a “new wave of training” and a “contemporary/relational phenomenon” that is becoming more out of touch with the real world of practice. There is a kind of ‘no man’s land’ populated with strong forces that split self and otherness apart. We are split between the life healing, experiential and experimental process of being present and the requirements and rules to complete the ‘subject’ in order to receive a certificate. Creative encounter seems to have no place in today’s gestalt training. Gestalt contact, relationship, physical touch is ‘not on’ and forbidden, and ethical rules mandate the therapy work not the person as a professional practitioner. As Fritz stated: “This intermediate, (I call programmed method) is populated with prejudices, complexes, catastrophic expectations, intellectual activity, perfectionism and mental jabbering, and words, words at all times” Perls (p36).

Since gestalt therapy officially begun in New York and with the publication of the GESTALT book in 1951, we suddenly entered the world of a new, creative phenomenology. Fritz published an earlier book EGO, HUNGER AND AGGRESSION in South Africa (1942) but even he claims that it was only an attempt to ‘learn how to type’. He was not well received by the readers that were not impressed by the title and yet, the open-ended ‘dialogical’ text was a creative adjustment for Fritz and the beginnings of a new way of working with people.

Now, it is 2019 and I have lived in Australia since 1978.  I arrived on a cold month of July and while reporting to my job at the University of Queensland, Department of Social Work, I met a couple of psychiatrists that were very interested in Gestalt therapy and they had a private practice clinic in the city. I was offered a working space to conduct groups and thus the Brisbane Gestalt Institute was born. My friend and a graduate in gestalt from the Toronto Gestalt Institute, Dr. James Oldham established an institute in Melbourne a year earlier.  We both were at the Toronto Institute under Jorge Rosner and Dr. Harvey Freedman as our teachers.

I am attempting to imitate Fritz’s style of writing – just flowing as the river with my words here. I am reflecting on the first gestalt training group in Brisbane and Jorge Rosner (my teacher) arrived here to run our training group. I called his style “the Rosnerian Gestalt” model. He came in January and about 30 students arrived at a residential facility. The program was simple and experiential. Morning body work, then small group work discussing theory, then Gestalt ‘hot seat’ work as established by Fritz at Esalen and more encounter group work.

On the last day, Jorge suggested we all take our clothing off and begin to examine our body as it is. This created a big fear and nervousness in the group. Jorge suggested that those who do not want to participate in this “body reading” exercise, may leave. No one left and we proceeded to volunteer to stand before the group – first, facing the group and then turnaround with the back to the group, sidewise and front again. The group seriously studied the person and made comments about the body aspects that they saw and how the body shape is telling us a lot about the inner person. Jorge’s comments had a very uncanny accuracy revealing the inner person’s issues by looking at the body. He then mentioned his work with Eva Reich, daughter of Wilhelm Reich who was Fritz’s analyst during his studies in Germany. We learned to take risks to be alive and feel open to all the life experiences. In Australia the Gestalt movement was a joy of discovering that learning is possible - creative learning. Whatever we did, it was full of fun and engagement. Our activities were not for purely economic reasons (marketing) but we were learning to shift ourselves from rigid cultural ethics to a new path: making a difference in the world.

Now, I need to reflect on the Australian gestalt history because it developed as a special model of training and evolved into a wonderful community of institutes.





THE GERBIL IN A CAGE AND DUCK SOUP

October is my birthday month and November a time when the old year is getting ready to leave and the new year is coming. Not just the new year but also the start of a new decade

My reflections about the journey of Gestalt therapy over the 50 years now, seems like a run of a hamster (Gerbil) in a wheel cage. This is a powerful image for me today as I am thinking about my own experience working and living as a gestalt therapist. The journey took me around the world many times and across Australia too. It was exiting experiencing a huge following of trainees wanting a new method of working and being. Over the years Gestalt Therapy has continued to expand both geographically and within our own society. It has come to be taught in India and Japan. Most striking at this stage has been the expansion of Gestalt Therapy into the culture, as distinct from the counter-culture (in which it originated) as it has come to be taught in universities, applied to business and so forth. Related to this diffusion of Gestalt Therapy into mainstream society has been what we may call its institutionalisation. Meaning that it has penetrated the established institutions and Gestalt practice has crystallized into many Gestalt training centres throughout the world that are practically (if not academically) accredited and may offer, in turn, accreditation. While we may assume that in this process there have developed refinements in Gestalt education and supervision, we should also be aware of how the adoption of psycho-spiritual values by the establishment and society at large also entails a process of compromise and adjustments to the mainstream.
Thus, it is legitimate to ask whether, along with the great international and intercultural diffusion of Gestalt Therapy in the last 50 years and with the existence of excellent representatives of the approach in many countries, there has also taken place a dilution. Here I quote a Sufi story about Nasrudin:

Nasruddin's famous "duck soup" joke: The story goes that a kinsman came to see Nasruddin from the country and brought a duck. Nasruddin was grateful, had the bird cooked, and shared it with his guest. Presently another visitor arrived. He was a friend, as he said, "of the man who gave you the duck." Nasruddin fed him well. This happened several times. Nasruddin's home became like a restaurant for out-of-town visitors. Everyone was a friend and some even removed from the original donor of the duck. Finally, Nasruddin became exasperated. One day there was a knock at the door and a stranger appeared. "I am a friend of the friend of the friend of the man who brought you the duck from the country," he said. "Come in," said Nasruddin. They seated themselves at the table, and Nasruddin asked his wife to bring the soup. When the guest tasted it, it seemed to be nothing more than warm water. "What sort of a soup is this?" he asked the Mulla. "That," said Nasruddin, "is the soup of the soup of the soup of the duck." Claudio Naranjo: “Gestalt after Fritz”.

EAST – WEST DIVISION

This division of East and West was not truly a division of a whole into two, however, but the long- term consequence of an increasing opposition that Fritz Perls and his activity was burdened his older associates. It is not surprising that those associates of Fritz who during the New York years competed intensely with him. They became only increasingly competitive once Fritz embraced his late and anti-theoretical and intuitionist creed, when the words "bullshit" and "mindfucking" became prominent in his vocabulary and when he considered the Gestalt Therapy book of the fifties obsolete and sought new associates and relationships. It is easy to understand how they did not only respond to rejection with rejection but also, taking Fritz's West Coast triumph as a defeat, sought its (and his) invalidation.
Many were subtle and restrained in the expression of their disapproval in the course of Fritz's lifetime, after Fritz's death they have supported an increasing denigration of Fritz, as if wanting to bury him and to minimize his imprint in the annals of history, at least in the sense of taking away his pre-eminence vis-a-vis Laura Perls and Paul Goodman.

So here we see the emerging ‘gerbil in a round cage’ The splits and separations within gestalt training institutes in Australia created an illusion of many groups and that led to the creation of GANZ the Gestalt Association of Australia & New Zealand. Round and round we all went and finally exhausted by so much dissent and changes that the Association perished as a viable place for growth. At that time I wrote an article regarding the demise of Gestalt as we all knew but, the round “cage” kept turning and turning. Here is a brief history of the Australian gestalt movement as I experienced it. A more complete version is written by Brian O’Neil*.

A BRIEF HISTORY OF GESTALT TRAINING IN AUSTRALIA

Gestalt Therapy arrived in Australia around 1971. The University of New England at Armidale sponsored overseas leaders to come and introduce to their student body and the public at large the innovations in psychotherapy that were sweeping North America. Dr William Schutz introduced the "Esalen Spirit" to Armidale. Although he never acknowledged himself as a Gestalt therapist, Dr Schutz did demonstrate Gestalt Awareness techniques and methods in his encounter group  workshops at Armidale.

Patti Oliver-Nolan and Dick Armstrong, both clinical psychologists were the first Gestalt Therapists that established on-going training.  Patti worked in Brisbane and Dick in Sydney and Melbourne. However, neither Patti nor Dick had any integrative training in Gestalt Therapy. The official beginning in training in Gestalt Therapy started in 1974 when Dr. James Oldham arrived from Toronto, Canada, having completed his 3-year training at the Gestalt Institute of Toronto. James, an Australian born psychiatrist, established a training institute in Melbourne and Perth.

In Brisbane, Patti Oliver-Nolan and a psychiatrist, Dr. Peter Mullholland, were conducting Gestalt groups based on their excitement and hungry reading of Perls' and Polsters' books. Finally, in 1976, both Peter and Patti went to the USA and participated in gestalt training courses offered by Drs. Miriam and Erving Polster in San Diego. For two years this Gestalt training group did not have a centre or a home base until Dr. Barry Blicharski, a psychiatrist who also had been involved in various gestalt workshops, established the Boundary Road Centre. The Centre was the hub of experiential psychotherapies for many years until Dr. Blicharski moved to Sydney, where he continued to promote Gestalt therapy and experiential therapy.

Before Barry left for Sydney, Yaro Starak arrived on the scene in 1978, Yaro was trained at the Gestalt Institute of Toronto and was a faculty member there for four years. He was in the same group as Dr. James Oldham. Yaro Starak, a lecturer in Social Work at the University of Queensland, established a formal three-year training programme in Brisbane. The programme has successfully graduated Gestalt therapist for over 17 years.

In Sydney, Gestalt Therapy did not enjoy a good name due to a shortage of leaders that had the training, professional qualifications and the dedication to the art of Gestalt therapy. At Dr Blicharski's centre Gestalt Therapy took an important centre of the stage and a gestalt training programme developed which had a good reputation amongst the public.  Sydney Centre under Director Anna Bernet, a graduate from the Brisbane Gestalt Centre was expanding and promoting the training programmes at a rapid pace. The institute closed after Anna died.However the new Sydney Gestalt institute developed with Rhonda G. Long and Phil Oldfield as directors.

With Gestalt Training in Perth celebrating 15 years of activities, Melbourne 17 years, Queensland 17 years and Sydney 14 years Gestalt Therapy has clearly taken deep roots in the fertile soil of Australia.

However, the “gerbil in the cage” started to move again and round and round we went.

Having read and re-read Brian’s review of Gestalt Therapy in Australia, I am sitting here and wandering: “what happened?” It seems that the ‘baby was thrown out along with the structural bath water”. The ‘cliché’ comes from an old story about bathing in the middle ages. On a Saturday night, the family took a bath in order to be clean for church on Sunday. Father went first then mother and then the kids (there were many of them) and somehow, as the water was getting more and more murky, the last one, a baby was thrown out with the dirty water. The family just could not see the baby there. So, I am looking at the whole Gestalt rush to get accreditation and student fee payment by governments and recognition as academic training. The whole community (Gestalt family) became blinded by the ‘requirements dirt’ and unknowingly threw out what Brian indicated:

“It would seem clear that if gestalt therapy seeks to continue as psychotherapy practice in Australia, particularly with the support of the government funding being accessed by psychologists, it must either seek registration from government.”

No! It was not clear, then nor is it now! Yet we all felt a fear of ‘dying’ as a community and as viable and strong therapy. The very SOUL that was Gestalt therapy is disappearing. I went into the Gestalt therapy as a young psychologist and social worker and felt that soul sense in every corner of the world where I met students and staff. As I am going out of the present community in Australia, I want to share with you my reflections as they are in 2019. Your comments are welcome:

Some time ago, as the director of  the Brisbane Gestalt Institute (founded in 1979) I wrote a short discussion paper for the DOT (Directors of Training) meeting in 1990 entitled “IS THE SPIRIT OF GESTALT DYING?” my rationale to write this paper was based on my hearing words spoken by many participants at Gestalt conferences, student comments and training faculty that somehow the ‘spirit’ of what attracted us to learning and practicing gestalt therapy is no longer apparent. The ‘soul’ is going out and only the format or structure is still apparent. All is becoming an ‘academic’ exercise.

Why is the spirit ‘dying’?

Sam Keen made a very good definition of the word spirit: “Spirit is the capacity to transcend the encapsulation (rigidity) of a personality (mask) To transcend the roles and myths that inform the adult Ego….Spirit is the realisation that we are embodied within a continuum, that we are alive only when a universal life-force flows through us like breath through lungs, like the wind through the forest.”(A Passionate Life, 1988).

Therefore, I am coming more and more to the sad realisation that GANZ, the Association of Gestalt Australia & New Zealand is on the brink of losing its soul or spirit quality. There seems to be a creeping invasion of the beaurocratic ‘virus’ where we experience from the outside a tyranny of ‘standardising’, ‘streamlining’, ‘equalising’, demanding ‘requirements’ and making the whole process a dead academic exercise. This invasive, rule-oriented development is clearly leaving the ‘spirit’ or life-force of Gestalt out of the core of teaching and learning.

At this time, I want to highlight (only one example) of the loss of Spirit in Gestalt as represented by GANZ. The story is my experience with the ‘management’(editors) of the GANZ publication. It was a workshop my wife and I completed at the GANZ  conference entitled:” Gestalt Therapy and Art Therapy”. The editors of the GANZ journal asked all presenters to write a report about their workshop so it could be published in the Journal. The papers were spread out in two publications. My wife Gemma (co-presenter) and two participants at our workshop volunteered to contribute and the paper was submitted to the editor. The paper was to be published in April 2015.

After several ‘reviews’ of the paper by some unknown readers (no dialog here) the editors sent me a criticism and attached an old GANZ journal to look at the papers published. Here is the quote from the email dated Dec 30.

“I’ve copied you into an email that lets you download the recent issue of the Journal that has several examples of presentations at the conference. I can see that you’ve made some changes, however your paper still falls short of describing what happened, including the structure and process of the workshop, instructions to participants, how SIDICAIR was used etc – like you put in your submission. Have a look at the articles in the Journal”

This comment was a total surprise to all of us. We wrote exactly what he is saying is missing. Perhaps they only read the GANZ conference proposal? So, we sent the paper to two senior Gestalt trainers and known editors of gestalt books and journals and received a very positive response with only a few corrections. In consultation with the contributors of the paper, we responded to the editors that we are confident that the paper is well written, and we ask that the reader make comments when the paper is published. I received a reply from the editors that the paper is not being published in the journal as it stands.

Thus, I have had the opportunity to experience directly this demise of spirit in Gestalt.

The Gestalt Spirit - dead!

“Gestalt therapy is a continually undergoing innovation and expansion in whatever direction is possible and with whatever means are available between the therapist and the patient in the actual therapeutic situation” L. Perls.(1992). Experiential work is the main ‘teacher’ of innovation and evidence-based practice.

Gestalt as an innovative process is sadly declining by the ongoing evaporation of actual contact with the field and a certain ‘death’ of the Spirit that was the main energy driver in the early days of its founding by Fritz Perls, Laura Perls, The Polsters and many others. Now the so called ‘contemporary gestalt movement is dividing Gestalt into “originalists” and “relationalists” (D. Bloom, 2011).
The ‘new relationalists’ seem to feel that the ‘old originalists’ who propose a contact and dialogue is a turn away from Gestalt psychotherapy. They claim that the therapist is some sort of stage director proposing ‘role plays’ and experiments to the patient. While the ‘reraltionalist’ emphasises the importance of therapy with “compassion, kindness, wisdom, equanimity and humility”. (Yontef 2009). There seems to be a real fear of somehow ‘shaming’ the patient. No wonder that the current “Mindfulness” method is already entering the Gestalt practice as if to ‘calm down’ the fear of shaming. What is now being forgotten is the fact that Carl Rogers and Martin Buber pioneered the dialogical encounter with the Client-centred model and the I-Thou principle. To relegate them to the “originalist box” is to clearly become blinded to the essence of Soul in therapy.

The danger of ‘splitting hairs – makes the round cage happen!

The original search of gestalt therapy was to enhance the curios and the alive in the human soul. When I went to Esalen Institute just after Fritz Perls died, I was amazed at the multitude of human potential experiments there. We explored marathon groups, encounter groups, massage training, Psychodrama, bodywork, Rolfing, and so on. Today students enter a master’s program and undertake a series of subjects like Awareness 102, Contact functions 203 and so on; finally, a presentation of a thesis on some research about Gestalt therapy. We are entering a field of a confused mental duality created by requirements and academic subjects. When Soul or Spirit is lost, the mind begins to structure dualities and anything that needs integration will not work. The whole is not there and when only the mind is at work, then confusion and theory and books explaining that confusion get the upper hand to no real effect.

In my own gestalt training, I was exploring the process of awareness, emotional release, body work, group therapy and was told to drop any books and not to read anything for a period of one year. As a young academic, I was shocked. How am I supposed to learn anything without the readings? I was told to do my personal work and learn by experience. Abraham Maslow was correct when he proposed the idea of Peak Experience. It makes a person healthy and alive and that process can help the person achieve Peak Experiences – in other words connect with Soul. Here, the books are useless.

CONCLUSION

To enable to heal the current split between the so called “Relationalists” and “Originalists” we need to come to the classic Gestalt encounter in dialogue with the two:

Relationalist: “I am humane, compassionate, humble and empathic”
Originalist: “Bull shit, you are totally in YOUR MIND. You just think and do not feel!
Relationalist: “As you speak, I feel hurt, ashamed”…
Originalist: “Transcend your mind set, enter into LOVE!”
Relationalist: “And what am I to do with Love”?
Originalist: “You must use that word to communicate with me. Love is an encounter with Spirit. It is not dual; it has no subject nor object. LOVE and SPIRIT are ONE!

Summary

To summarise this reflection, here is a quote from Dan Bloom, fellow of the NY Gestalt Institute:
“What could divide the NY Gestalt community (and others in the world) into “originalists” and “relationalists” is the defending the implicit relationality of basic Gestalt therapy theory and claim to have been trained to be relationally from the forming days of Gestalt therapy to those who style themselves as “course correctors”. Shifting Gestalt therapy away from the original ‘individualist’ model to a ‘dialogical’, relational Gestalt’. NONE are on the correct path. Life is not one or the other. Life is transcendental (both-and). Attempting to claim one aspect as the right or good one is a big mistake. Gestalt means WHOLE. We are not separate from Nature (spirit) We ARE nature. It is absurd to claim that one mental set of beliefs is better, more contemporaneous’ than other.”(2011)
Gestalt community does not need a new ‘split’. Over the past 30 years we had a plethora of splits. West Coast Gestalt vs East Coast Gestalt. Gestalt and other modalities, Gestalt and Mindfulness and so on. All this leads to more intellectual arguments at conferences but leaves students unimpressed.
Fritz Perls, Laura Perls, the Polsters, Zinker and many others may be defined as ‘originalists’ they are - in the sense that they were the original writers and contributors to the vast wisdom if Gestalt therapy. Yontef, Jacobs, Hycner and others may be defined as ‘relationalists’. However, all have quoted and used the philosophy of Martin Buber: I-Thou vs I-It dynamics of human nature. We are all built on the previous creators of something new and then we add more to the “cauldron of knowledge”. Many concepts that were only experimental in the early days of Gestalt Therapy are now being more refined, more clarified and more explicit as well as researched over time. There is no need to split and separate and if separation happens (like in any relation), So, my advice is: do the right thing and place two chairs in front of each other and create a dialogue until integration happens.

That is the challenge!

“Mind is all your beliefs collected together.

 Openness means no-mind, openness means
You put your mind aside and then you are
Ready to look into life again and again
In a new way – not with the old eyes”
OSHO