Tuesday, December 31, 2019

RETURN OF THE GODDESS - JANUARY 2020










JANUARY 2020 BLOG – INANNA, THE RETURN OF THE GODDESS ARCHETYPE

Dear Reader,

As the 2020 is appearing on the horizon of the new decade, I am reflecting on the many aspects of the Masculine energy as written in my blog in 2019 (see my previous notes). What really became very obvious to me, is that the Feminine Archetype was missing, and it was really missing for several thousand years. So, I was very intrigued by the ancient myths and stories that were very common about 5,000 years ago until the masculine gods and the new religions put aside the Goddess.  

Now, I want to reflect on the return of the Goddess. It seems that she was ‘dormant’ and/or went ‘invisible’ as the masculine deities were busy making wars, conquests and establishing empires. The Christian church dominated everywhere and considered the “myth” of the goddess not sacred and only Mary, the mother of Christ, was venerated. The veneration of the Goddess ISHTAR- INANNA was forbidden and even the follower of Christ, Mary Magdalene was defined as a prostitute. Sex became a sin and only allowed in marriage.

As we approach the new decade, we are experiencing the emergence of the Goddess Archetype. The many feminist movements, movie heroines and female protagonists like, for example, the female warrior called Rey.  She becomes the ‘last jedi ’in the final Star Wars movie.

My feeling is that consciously or not, Rey was based on the ancient Goddess Inanna. Inanna-Ishtar story is very powerful and here is a short description of her in Wikipedia:



 Inanna: mural from 3,000bc



Inanna is an ancient Mesopotamian goddess associated with love, beauty, sex, desire, fertility, war, justice, and political power. She was originally worshipped in Sumer and was later worshipped by the Akkadians, Babylonians, and Assyrians under the name Ishtar. She was known as the "Queen of Heaven" and was the patron goddess of the Eanna temple at the city of Uruk, which was her main cult centre. She was associated with the planet Venus and her most prominent symbols included the lion and the eight-pointed star. Her husband was the god Dumuzid (later known as Tammuz) and her sukkal, or personal attendant, was the goddess Ninshubur (who later became the male deity Papsukkal).

Inanna was worshipped in Sumer at least as early as the Uruk period (c. 4000 BC – c. 3100 BC), but she had little cult prior to the conquest of Sargon of Akkad. During the post-Sargonic era, she became one of the most widely venerated deities in the Sumerian pantheon, with temples across Mesopotamia. The cult of Inanna-Ishtar, which may have been associated with a variety of sexual rites, was continued by the East Semitic-speaking people who succeeded the Sumerians in the region. She was especially beloved by the Assyrians, who elevated her to become the highest deity in their pantheon, ranking above their own national god Ashur. Inanna-Ishtar is alluded to in the Hebrew Bible and she greatly influenced the Phoenician goddess Astoreth, who later influenced the development of the Greek goddess Aphrodite. Her cult continued to flourish until its gradual decline between the first and sixth centuries AD in the wake of Christianity, though it survived in parts of Upper Mesopotamia as late as the eighteenth century.

Inanna appears in more myths than any other Sumerian deity. Many of her myths involve her taking over the domains of other deities. She was believed to have stolen the Mes, which represented all positive and negative aspects of civilization, from Enki, the god of wisdom. She was also believed to have taken over the Eanna temple from An, the god of the sky. Alongside her twin brother Utu (later known as Shamash), Inanna was the enforcer of divine justice; she destroyed Mount Ebih for having challenged her authority, unleashed her fury upon the gardener Shukaletuda after he raped her in her sleep, and tracked down the bandit woman Bilulu and killed her in divine retribution for having murdered Dumuzid. In the standard Akkadian version of the Epic of Gilgamesh, Ishtar asks Gilgamesh to become her consort. When he refuses, she unleashes the Bull of Heaven, resulting in the death of Enkidu and Gilgamesh's subsequent grapple with his mortality.

 Indian temple of Ishtar


Inanna-Ishtar's most famous myth is the story of her descent into and return from Kur, the ancient Sumerian Underworld, a myth in which she attempts to conquer the domain of her older sister Ereshkigal, the queen of the Underworld, but is instead deemed guilty of hubris by the seven judges of the Underworld and struck dead. Three days later, Ninshubur pleads with all the gods to bring Inanna back, but all of them refuse her except Enki, who sends two beings to rescue Inanna. They escort Inanna out of the Underworld, but the Galla, the guardians of the Underworld, drag her husband Dumuzid down to the Underworld as her replacement. Dumuzid is eventually permitted to return to heaven for half the year while his sister Geshtinanna remains in the Underworld for the other half, resulting in the cycle of the seasons.

This is an amazing story that even the Christian Bible developed the myth of Adam and Eve and the resurrection of Christ based on the goddess story. The name ISHTAR is considered by some historians as the name for EASTER.

The story about Inanna visiting the underworld and stripped naked and then killed may be an indication as to how the Feminine was destroyed and given a sinful image in the Christian religion.

"After she had crouched down and had her clothes removed, they were carried away. Then she made her sister Erec-ki-gala rise from her throne, and instead she sat on her throne. The Anna, the seven judges, rendered their decision against her. They looked at her – it was the look of death. They spoke to her – it was the speech of anger. They shouted at her – it was the shout of heavy guilt. The afflicted woman was turned into a corpse. And the corpse was hung on a hook.

CONCLUSION

The return of the Goddess, as depicted in the journey of Inanna, offers a chance for something to be born, recovered or renewed. Inanna-Ishtar, the Queen of Heaven, was respected as one with every type of talent, deserving adoration, and many powers. She takes the Journey because of a desire for change.

It is a great hope that the return of the Goddess Archetype will manifest in the coming decade, a space for change, peace and a cooperation with all cultures. In the case of climate change, she tells us: “CHANGE OD DIE”! We are given the gift of change and the power to shift our priorities in life.

 The return of the Goddess will be the way!

Here is a link for you to listen to Anna Parker about the story of Mary Magdalene. MUST LISTEN!







HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!





More modern Inanna-Ishtar



Friday, November 29, 2019

DECEMBER 2019 - THE FUTURE OF MEN AND MASCULINITY







THE FUTURE OF MEN AND MASCULINITY













Dear Reader,



This is my last reflection for 2019. It is December again! Young people have a different sense of time passing by. They seem to complain that a day is soooo long and nothing to do, while older people say, “where has the day gone?”

So, I am reflecting on a theme that I spent writing a lot this year (see my earlier blog posts) and the central theme that attracted me most is MASCULINITY and how the modern social networks, with their male bashing statements, have damaged men roles and especially many are vilifying young men.

My reflections ask: what is the future of Masculinity? What will the future bring as we examine this crisis in masculinity today? What are the possible solutions?

Australian archaeologist Peter McAllister said, "I have a strong feeling that masculinity is in crisis. Men are really searching for a role in modern society; the things we used to do aren't in much demand anymore". Others see the changing labour market as a source of stress. Deindustrialization and the replacement of smokestack industries by technology have allowed more women to enter the labour force, reducing its emphasis on physical strength.

The crisis has also been attributed to the questioning of male dominance and rights granted to men solely based on sex following the feminist movement. British sociologist John MacInnes wrote that "masculinity has always been in one crisis or another", suggesting that the crises arise from the "fundamental incompatibility between the core principle of modernity that all human beings are essentially equal (regardless of their sex) and the core tenet of patriarchy that men are naturally superior to women and thus destined to rule over them". Film scholar Leon Hunt also writes: "Whenever the masculinity 'crisis' actually started, it certainly seems to have been in place by the 1970s". (Source – Wikipedia)

Historically, it is mainly in times of physical, economic and spiritual downfall that societies turned to the future hoping for ‘better times’ to come. The crisis today is the way men are being put in a “toxic men box” and therefore the future of men is uncertain.

A study at the Queensland University of Technology: THE MAN PROJECT, confirmed the apocalyptic state that men and mostly young men are going through. Here are some facts to consider and become aware of and share with your male friends:

1.       One in five men experience depression in a 12 months period.



2.       Three quarters of people who die of suicide are men.



3.       Six men in Australia between the age of 15 to 44, take their lives daily.



4.       One in five men will experience a chronic anxiety condition.



5.       Men are less likely to seek help for mental health issues than women.



6.       Men buy more take away junk food and eat a lot of sugary teats on a weekly basis.



7.       Only 7% of men eat enough vegetables.



8.       Men 55 and over do not drink enough water.



9.       Two in five men drink alcohol at a risky level.



10.   54% of men are unhappy with their body shape and weight and suffer of digestive discomfort.



11.   Men become depressed more often in a breakup of a relationship.



NOTE: The Qld. Government is funding a HEALTHY LIFESTYLE program and provide free health coaching to prevent serious diseases such as heart attacks, strokes and diabetes to become a chronic illness. Call: 13 74 75



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Conclusion

In their book “Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys”, Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson wrote that although all boys are born loving and empathic, exposure to gender socialization (the tough male ideal and hypermasculinity) limits their ability to function as emotionally healthy adults. According to Kindlon and Thompson, boys lack the ability to understand and express emotions productively because of the stress imposed by masculine gender roles.

A couple of quotes from mature men:

"I don't think a man has to go around shouting and play-acting to prove he is something. And a real man doesn’t go around putting other guys down, trampling their feelings in the dirt, making out they're nothing". Joe Frazier - Boxing champion.



A real man loves his wife and places his family as the most important thing in life. Nothing has brought me more peace and content in life than simply being a good husband and father. Frank Abagnale From the book: "Catch me if you Can"



The future of men, then, lies in enabling young men to break the old stereotype of a MACHO MAN. Elders as Mentors are needed to contact young men everywhere and share with them how we can jointly construct a fare and happy future.

Reference:

Kindlon, Dan; Thompson, Michael (2000), "The road not taken: turning boys away from their inner life", in Kindlon, Dan; Thompson, Michael (eds.), Raising Cain: protecting the emotional life of boys, New York: Ballantine Books, pp. 1–20, ISBN 9780345434852.

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Tuesday, November 5, 2019

NOVEMBER BLOG - 2019



THE GERBIL IN A CAGE AND DUCK SOUP









 NOVEMBER -  2019 BLOG  REFLECTIONS YARO

Dear readers,

Lately, I have been inspired by the late old master and principal founder of Gestalt Therapy Dr. Fritz Perls. His autobiography “In and Out of the Garbage Pail,” (1970) written and published by Bob Hall is still in my memory. It was his last book written about one year before his death. My own Gestalt teacher and Mentor Jorge Rosner was a close friend of Fritz and spent many years with him at Esalen, CA. and Chicago. When Fritz was ill with pancreatic cancer, he made two major decisions: first to call his wife Laura in New York and second, he refused to stay in bed when the nurse ordered him to do so. He told the nurse: “I will not be told what to do!” then he stood up and then fell on the bed and died. The year was 1970.

Re-reading his autobiography, I am inspired by his clear and direct way to express himself in the ‘here and now’. I want to write like he did – just starting with a short verse by Fritz:
“In and out the garbage pail
Put I my creation
Be it lively, be it stale
Sadness or elation”

Yet, he admits that he wants to impress, to show off…he wrote poetry as a young man in Berlin in 1934. I also want to ‘show off’ that I write poetry and even published a book and now am writing Haiku poems. Japanese Haiku is written in only three lines but show the whole ‘gestalt’ - the full image in words to state the whole.

Fritz wrote in “verbatim” form, just as the words came out of his thinking without editing but letting the mind flow like a river. I am sitting at my writing desk and begin to let ‘the river flow’ -  just writing the sentences as they emerge from my thinking without rehearsing: “what to say?” More about Fritz:

Frtiz shifted from Freud to Existentialism. Like me, I stopped reading Freud’s books and entered the world of “BE HERE NOW” In 1971. Most if not all of Freud’s discoveries as an analyst, became obsolete with the latest brain research and neuropsychology. Gestalt became a ‘cool’ therapy in my training years and continued into the 90’s and up to 2012.

I agree with Fritz that all theories and hypothesis are simply fantasies about how the world functions. Once they are verified and are applicable in actual practice (evidence based), they become reality. All ideas are articles of faith (like all religions) and the same applies to my attitude towards Gestalt today.
As I experience the ‘gestalt world’ today, I see and feel that the field is becoming more and more an intellectual (mind) exercise in the training institutes and the courses look more and more like some sort of academic ‘brain washing’ of students learning Gestalt therapy. We are split between the experiential and experimental gestalt approach and the rules and theories that are written in books. Now this structured curriculum is called a “new wave of training” and a “contemporary/relational phenomenon” that is becoming more out of touch with the real world of practice. There is a kind of ‘no man’s land’ populated with strong forces that split self and otherness apart. We are split between the life healing, experiential and experimental process of being present and the requirements and rules to complete the ‘subject’ in order to receive a certificate. Creative encounter seems to have no place in today’s gestalt training. Gestalt contact, relationship, physical touch is ‘not on’ and forbidden, and ethical rules mandate the therapy work not the person as a professional practitioner. As Fritz stated: “This intermediate, (I call programmed method) is populated with prejudices, complexes, catastrophic expectations, intellectual activity, perfectionism and mental jabbering, and words, words at all times” Perls (p36).

Since gestalt therapy officially begun in New York and with the publication of the GESTALT book in 1951, we suddenly entered the world of a new, creative phenomenology. Fritz published an earlier book EGO, HUNGER AND AGGRESSION in South Africa (1942) but even he claims that it was only an attempt to ‘learn how to type’. He was not well received by the readers that were not impressed by the title and yet, the open-ended ‘dialogical’ text was a creative adjustment for Fritz and the beginnings of a new way of working with people.

Now, it is 2019 and I have lived in Australia since 1978.  I arrived on a cold month of July and while reporting to my job at the University of Queensland, Department of Social Work, I met a couple of psychiatrists that were very interested in Gestalt therapy and they had a private practice clinic in the city. I was offered a working space to conduct groups and thus the Brisbane Gestalt Institute was born. My friend and a graduate in gestalt from the Toronto Gestalt Institute, Dr. James Oldham established an institute in Melbourne a year earlier.  We both were at the Toronto Institute under Jorge Rosner and Dr. Harvey Freedman as our teachers.

I am attempting to imitate Fritz’s style of writing – just flowing as the river with my words here. I am reflecting on the first gestalt training group in Brisbane and Jorge Rosner (my teacher) arrived here to run our training group. I called his style “the Rosnerian Gestalt” model. He came in January and about 30 students arrived at a residential facility. The program was simple and experiential. Morning body work, then small group work discussing theory, then Gestalt ‘hot seat’ work as established by Fritz at Esalen and more encounter group work.

On the last day, Jorge suggested we all take our clothing off and begin to examine our body as it is. This created a big fear and nervousness in the group. Jorge suggested that those who do not want to participate in this “body reading” exercise, may leave. No one left and we proceeded to volunteer to stand before the group – first, facing the group and then turnaround with the back to the group, sidewise and front again. The group seriously studied the person and made comments about the body aspects that they saw and how the body shape is telling us a lot about the inner person. Jorge’s comments had a very uncanny accuracy revealing the inner person’s issues by looking at the body. He then mentioned his work with Eva Reich, daughter of Wilhelm Reich who was Fritz’s analyst during his studies in Germany. We learned to take risks to be alive and feel open to all the life experiences. In Australia the Gestalt movement was a joy of discovering that learning is possible - creative learning. Whatever we did, it was full of fun and engagement. Our activities were not for purely economic reasons (marketing) but we were learning to shift ourselves from rigid cultural ethics to a new path: making a difference in the world.

Now, I need to reflect on the Australian gestalt history because it developed as a special model of training and evolved into a wonderful community of institutes.





THE GERBIL IN A CAGE AND DUCK SOUP

October is my birthday month and November a time when the old year is getting ready to leave and the new year is coming. Not just the new year but also the start of a new decade

My reflections about the journey of Gestalt therapy over the 50 years now, seems like a run of a hamster (Gerbil) in a wheel cage. This is a powerful image for me today as I am thinking about my own experience working and living as a gestalt therapist. The journey took me around the world many times and across Australia too. It was exiting experiencing a huge following of trainees wanting a new method of working and being. Over the years Gestalt Therapy has continued to expand both geographically and within our own society. It has come to be taught in India and Japan. Most striking at this stage has been the expansion of Gestalt Therapy into the culture, as distinct from the counter-culture (in which it originated) as it has come to be taught in universities, applied to business and so forth. Related to this diffusion of Gestalt Therapy into mainstream society has been what we may call its institutionalisation. Meaning that it has penetrated the established institutions and Gestalt practice has crystallized into many Gestalt training centres throughout the world that are practically (if not academically) accredited and may offer, in turn, accreditation. While we may assume that in this process there have developed refinements in Gestalt education and supervision, we should also be aware of how the adoption of psycho-spiritual values by the establishment and society at large also entails a process of compromise and adjustments to the mainstream.
Thus, it is legitimate to ask whether, along with the great international and intercultural diffusion of Gestalt Therapy in the last 50 years and with the existence of excellent representatives of the approach in many countries, there has also taken place a dilution. Here I quote a Sufi story about Nasrudin:

Nasruddin's famous "duck soup" joke: The story goes that a kinsman came to see Nasruddin from the country and brought a duck. Nasruddin was grateful, had the bird cooked, and shared it with his guest. Presently another visitor arrived. He was a friend, as he said, "of the man who gave you the duck." Nasruddin fed him well. This happened several times. Nasruddin's home became like a restaurant for out-of-town visitors. Everyone was a friend and some even removed from the original donor of the duck. Finally, Nasruddin became exasperated. One day there was a knock at the door and a stranger appeared. "I am a friend of the friend of the friend of the man who brought you the duck from the country," he said. "Come in," said Nasruddin. They seated themselves at the table, and Nasruddin asked his wife to bring the soup. When the guest tasted it, it seemed to be nothing more than warm water. "What sort of a soup is this?" he asked the Mulla. "That," said Nasruddin, "is the soup of the soup of the soup of the duck." Claudio Naranjo: “Gestalt after Fritz”.

EAST – WEST DIVISION

This division of East and West was not truly a division of a whole into two, however, but the long- term consequence of an increasing opposition that Fritz Perls and his activity was burdened his older associates. It is not surprising that those associates of Fritz who during the New York years competed intensely with him. They became only increasingly competitive once Fritz embraced his late and anti-theoretical and intuitionist creed, when the words "bullshit" and "mindfucking" became prominent in his vocabulary and when he considered the Gestalt Therapy book of the fifties obsolete and sought new associates and relationships. It is easy to understand how they did not only respond to rejection with rejection but also, taking Fritz's West Coast triumph as a defeat, sought its (and his) invalidation.
Many were subtle and restrained in the expression of their disapproval in the course of Fritz's lifetime, after Fritz's death they have supported an increasing denigration of Fritz, as if wanting to bury him and to minimize his imprint in the annals of history, at least in the sense of taking away his pre-eminence vis-a-vis Laura Perls and Paul Goodman.

So here we see the emerging ‘gerbil in a round cage’ The splits and separations within gestalt training institutes in Australia created an illusion of many groups and that led to the creation of GANZ the Gestalt Association of Australia & New Zealand. Round and round we all went and finally exhausted by so much dissent and changes that the Association perished as a viable place for growth. At that time I wrote an article regarding the demise of Gestalt as we all knew but, the round “cage” kept turning and turning. Here is a brief history of the Australian gestalt movement as I experienced it. A more complete version is written by Brian O’Neil*.

A BRIEF HISTORY OF GESTALT TRAINING IN AUSTRALIA

Gestalt Therapy arrived in Australia around 1971. The University of New England at Armidale sponsored overseas leaders to come and introduce to their student body and the public at large the innovations in psychotherapy that were sweeping North America. Dr William Schutz introduced the "Esalen Spirit" to Armidale. Although he never acknowledged himself as a Gestalt therapist, Dr Schutz did demonstrate Gestalt Awareness techniques and methods in his encounter group  workshops at Armidale.

Patti Oliver-Nolan and Dick Armstrong, both clinical psychologists were the first Gestalt Therapists that established on-going training.  Patti worked in Brisbane and Dick in Sydney and Melbourne. However, neither Patti nor Dick had any integrative training in Gestalt Therapy. The official beginning in training in Gestalt Therapy started in 1974 when Dr. James Oldham arrived from Toronto, Canada, having completed his 3-year training at the Gestalt Institute of Toronto. James, an Australian born psychiatrist, established a training institute in Melbourne and Perth.

In Brisbane, Patti Oliver-Nolan and a psychiatrist, Dr. Peter Mullholland, were conducting Gestalt groups based on their excitement and hungry reading of Perls' and Polsters' books. Finally, in 1976, both Peter and Patti went to the USA and participated in gestalt training courses offered by Drs. Miriam and Erving Polster in San Diego. For two years this Gestalt training group did not have a centre or a home base until Dr. Barry Blicharski, a psychiatrist who also had been involved in various gestalt workshops, established the Boundary Road Centre. The Centre was the hub of experiential psychotherapies for many years until Dr. Blicharski moved to Sydney, where he continued to promote Gestalt therapy and experiential therapy.

Before Barry left for Sydney, Yaro Starak arrived on the scene in 1978, Yaro was trained at the Gestalt Institute of Toronto and was a faculty member there for four years. He was in the same group as Dr. James Oldham. Yaro Starak, a lecturer in Social Work at the University of Queensland, established a formal three-year training programme in Brisbane. The programme has successfully graduated Gestalt therapist for over 17 years.

In Sydney, Gestalt Therapy did not enjoy a good name due to a shortage of leaders that had the training, professional qualifications and the dedication to the art of Gestalt therapy. At Dr Blicharski's centre Gestalt Therapy took an important centre of the stage and a gestalt training programme developed which had a good reputation amongst the public.  Sydney Centre under Director Anna Bernet, a graduate from the Brisbane Gestalt Centre was expanding and promoting the training programmes at a rapid pace. The institute closed after Anna died.However the new Sydney Gestalt institute developed with Rhonda G. Long and Phil Oldfield as directors.

With Gestalt Training in Perth celebrating 15 years of activities, Melbourne 17 years, Queensland 17 years and Sydney 14 years Gestalt Therapy has clearly taken deep roots in the fertile soil of Australia.

However, the “gerbil in the cage” started to move again and round and round we went.

Having read and re-read Brian’s review of Gestalt Therapy in Australia, I am sitting here and wandering: “what happened?” It seems that the ‘baby was thrown out along with the structural bath water”. The ‘cliché’ comes from an old story about bathing in the middle ages. On a Saturday night, the family took a bath in order to be clean for church on Sunday. Father went first then mother and then the kids (there were many of them) and somehow, as the water was getting more and more murky, the last one, a baby was thrown out with the dirty water. The family just could not see the baby there. So, I am looking at the whole Gestalt rush to get accreditation and student fee payment by governments and recognition as academic training. The whole community (Gestalt family) became blinded by the ‘requirements dirt’ and unknowingly threw out what Brian indicated:

“It would seem clear that if gestalt therapy seeks to continue as psychotherapy practice in Australia, particularly with the support of the government funding being accessed by psychologists, it must either seek registration from government.”

No! It was not clear, then nor is it now! Yet we all felt a fear of ‘dying’ as a community and as viable and strong therapy. The very SOUL that was Gestalt therapy is disappearing. I went into the Gestalt therapy as a young psychologist and social worker and felt that soul sense in every corner of the world where I met students and staff. As I am going out of the present community in Australia, I want to share with you my reflections as they are in 2019. Your comments are welcome:

Some time ago, as the director of  the Brisbane Gestalt Institute (founded in 1979) I wrote a short discussion paper for the DOT (Directors of Training) meeting in 1990 entitled “IS THE SPIRIT OF GESTALT DYING?” my rationale to write this paper was based on my hearing words spoken by many participants at Gestalt conferences, student comments and training faculty that somehow the ‘spirit’ of what attracted us to learning and practicing gestalt therapy is no longer apparent. The ‘soul’ is going out and only the format or structure is still apparent. All is becoming an ‘academic’ exercise.

Why is the spirit ‘dying’?

Sam Keen made a very good definition of the word spirit: “Spirit is the capacity to transcend the encapsulation (rigidity) of a personality (mask) To transcend the roles and myths that inform the adult Ego….Spirit is the realisation that we are embodied within a continuum, that we are alive only when a universal life-force flows through us like breath through lungs, like the wind through the forest.”(A Passionate Life, 1988).

Therefore, I am coming more and more to the sad realisation that GANZ, the Association of Gestalt Australia & New Zealand is on the brink of losing its soul or spirit quality. There seems to be a creeping invasion of the beaurocratic ‘virus’ where we experience from the outside a tyranny of ‘standardising’, ‘streamlining’, ‘equalising’, demanding ‘requirements’ and making the whole process a dead academic exercise. This invasive, rule-oriented development is clearly leaving the ‘spirit’ or life-force of Gestalt out of the core of teaching and learning.

At this time, I want to highlight (only one example) of the loss of Spirit in Gestalt as represented by GANZ. The story is my experience with the ‘management’(editors) of the GANZ publication. It was a workshop my wife and I completed at the GANZ  conference entitled:” Gestalt Therapy and Art Therapy”. The editors of the GANZ journal asked all presenters to write a report about their workshop so it could be published in the Journal. The papers were spread out in two publications. My wife Gemma (co-presenter) and two participants at our workshop volunteered to contribute and the paper was submitted to the editor. The paper was to be published in April 2015.

After several ‘reviews’ of the paper by some unknown readers (no dialog here) the editors sent me a criticism and attached an old GANZ journal to look at the papers published. Here is the quote from the email dated Dec 30.

“I’ve copied you into an email that lets you download the recent issue of the Journal that has several examples of presentations at the conference. I can see that you’ve made some changes, however your paper still falls short of describing what happened, including the structure and process of the workshop, instructions to participants, how SIDICAIR was used etc – like you put in your submission. Have a look at the articles in the Journal”

This comment was a total surprise to all of us. We wrote exactly what he is saying is missing. Perhaps they only read the GANZ conference proposal? So, we sent the paper to two senior Gestalt trainers and known editors of gestalt books and journals and received a very positive response with only a few corrections. In consultation with the contributors of the paper, we responded to the editors that we are confident that the paper is well written, and we ask that the reader make comments when the paper is published. I received a reply from the editors that the paper is not being published in the journal as it stands.

Thus, I have had the opportunity to experience directly this demise of spirit in Gestalt.

The Gestalt Spirit - dead!

“Gestalt therapy is a continually undergoing innovation and expansion in whatever direction is possible and with whatever means are available between the therapist and the patient in the actual therapeutic situation” L. Perls.(1992). Experiential work is the main ‘teacher’ of innovation and evidence-based practice.

Gestalt as an innovative process is sadly declining by the ongoing evaporation of actual contact with the field and a certain ‘death’ of the Spirit that was the main energy driver in the early days of its founding by Fritz Perls, Laura Perls, The Polsters and many others. Now the so called ‘contemporary gestalt movement is dividing Gestalt into “originalists” and “relationalists” (D. Bloom, 2011).
The ‘new relationalists’ seem to feel that the ‘old originalists’ who propose a contact and dialogue is a turn away from Gestalt psychotherapy. They claim that the therapist is some sort of stage director proposing ‘role plays’ and experiments to the patient. While the ‘reraltionalist’ emphasises the importance of therapy with “compassion, kindness, wisdom, equanimity and humility”. (Yontef 2009). There seems to be a real fear of somehow ‘shaming’ the patient. No wonder that the current “Mindfulness” method is already entering the Gestalt practice as if to ‘calm down’ the fear of shaming. What is now being forgotten is the fact that Carl Rogers and Martin Buber pioneered the dialogical encounter with the Client-centred model and the I-Thou principle. To relegate them to the “originalist box” is to clearly become blinded to the essence of Soul in therapy.

The danger of ‘splitting hairs – makes the round cage happen!

The original search of gestalt therapy was to enhance the curios and the alive in the human soul. When I went to Esalen Institute just after Fritz Perls died, I was amazed at the multitude of human potential experiments there. We explored marathon groups, encounter groups, massage training, Psychodrama, bodywork, Rolfing, and so on. Today students enter a master’s program and undertake a series of subjects like Awareness 102, Contact functions 203 and so on; finally, a presentation of a thesis on some research about Gestalt therapy. We are entering a field of a confused mental duality created by requirements and academic subjects. When Soul or Spirit is lost, the mind begins to structure dualities and anything that needs integration will not work. The whole is not there and when only the mind is at work, then confusion and theory and books explaining that confusion get the upper hand to no real effect.

In my own gestalt training, I was exploring the process of awareness, emotional release, body work, group therapy and was told to drop any books and not to read anything for a period of one year. As a young academic, I was shocked. How am I supposed to learn anything without the readings? I was told to do my personal work and learn by experience. Abraham Maslow was correct when he proposed the idea of Peak Experience. It makes a person healthy and alive and that process can help the person achieve Peak Experiences – in other words connect with Soul. Here, the books are useless.

CONCLUSION

To enable to heal the current split between the so called “Relationalists” and “Originalists” we need to come to the classic Gestalt encounter in dialogue with the two:

Relationalist: “I am humane, compassionate, humble and empathic”
Originalist: “Bull shit, you are totally in YOUR MIND. You just think and do not feel!
Relationalist: “As you speak, I feel hurt, ashamed”…
Originalist: “Transcend your mind set, enter into LOVE!”
Relationalist: “And what am I to do with Love”?
Originalist: “You must use that word to communicate with me. Love is an encounter with Spirit. It is not dual; it has no subject nor object. LOVE and SPIRIT are ONE!

Summary

To summarise this reflection, here is a quote from Dan Bloom, fellow of the NY Gestalt Institute:
“What could divide the NY Gestalt community (and others in the world) into “originalists” and “relationalists” is the defending the implicit relationality of basic Gestalt therapy theory and claim to have been trained to be relationally from the forming days of Gestalt therapy to those who style themselves as “course correctors”. Shifting Gestalt therapy away from the original ‘individualist’ model to a ‘dialogical’, relational Gestalt’. NONE are on the correct path. Life is not one or the other. Life is transcendental (both-and). Attempting to claim one aspect as the right or good one is a big mistake. Gestalt means WHOLE. We are not separate from Nature (spirit) We ARE nature. It is absurd to claim that one mental set of beliefs is better, more contemporaneous’ than other.”(2011)
Gestalt community does not need a new ‘split’. Over the past 30 years we had a plethora of splits. West Coast Gestalt vs East Coast Gestalt. Gestalt and other modalities, Gestalt and Mindfulness and so on. All this leads to more intellectual arguments at conferences but leaves students unimpressed.
Fritz Perls, Laura Perls, the Polsters, Zinker and many others may be defined as ‘originalists’ they are - in the sense that they were the original writers and contributors to the vast wisdom if Gestalt therapy. Yontef, Jacobs, Hycner and others may be defined as ‘relationalists’. However, all have quoted and used the philosophy of Martin Buber: I-Thou vs I-It dynamics of human nature. We are all built on the previous creators of something new and then we add more to the “cauldron of knowledge”. Many concepts that were only experimental in the early days of Gestalt Therapy are now being more refined, more clarified and more explicit as well as researched over time. There is no need to split and separate and if separation happens (like in any relation), So, my advice is: do the right thing and place two chairs in front of each other and create a dialogue until integration happens.

That is the challenge!

“Mind is all your beliefs collected together.

 Openness means no-mind, openness means
You put your mind aside and then you are
Ready to look into life again and again
In a new way – not with the old eyes”
OSHO








Tuesday, October 1, 2019

OCTOBER - 2019






BLOG OCTOBER 2019



What is a man today?


I am reflecting about the theme of this month’s publication. There are many possibilities emerging as I am thinking about the world today. One theme is the “toxic masculinity”. Last week, I attended a very interesting meeting (Sept 23) at the GOMA art gallery. There were about 200 people attending and the host was Paul Barcley of ABC radio national.

 The speakers were: Tarang Chawla, writer, activist and founder of Not One More Nikki campaign. (Nikki was his sister murdered by her partner). Michael Flood, Associate professor at the Queensland University, and director of the Centre of Research on Men And Masculinity; Joe Williams, mental health advocate, professional boxer Rugby League player, his ancestry is from the Cowra people who struggled many years with mental health (bipolar syndrome)and wrote his biography entitled “Defying the Enemy Within; Catharine Lumby, professor of media at Macquarie University she is also an author and a Journalist.

This group of amazing presenters explored, before a large audience, about the current slur(my interpretation) on Masculinity and the impact of this label on young men.

This full discussion can be viewed on: gagoma.qld.gov.au/youtube
Search GOMA TALKS: TOXIC MASCULINITY

This interesting and open discussion, along with the Ben Quilty art exhibition, has inspired me to continue my own research about who is a Man today and how the media is thrashing masculinity.

However, I came back from this discussion asking the question that many are asking: WHAT IS THE SOLUTION”?

Is this a Social Change issue? Or is this an education of young men as they pass through school?
Or is this a paradigm shift opening the masculine definition that has been in Australia for a couple of hundreds of years”?

In my research, I discovered the following comments from experts in this matter:

1.       Jordan Peterson, psychology professor in Canada: “boys are falling behind due to the elimination of concepts that form young men in their experience growing into men.

Active boys are often labelled as ADD and some are medicated to calm them down. It is easy to confuse and use masculine energy to explain the ‘old patriarchy’ That men only want power and possession.

2.       Justin Balmain, a young actor who is busy promoting a redefinition of masculinity. He asks the question: "Let's make men less toxic" – who will do this? “stop men acting like rough-tough ‘macho’ impersonators " – Who will do this?
       
It is my impression that most solutions to redefine masculinity fall into two main areas: One is Social Change that focuses on the constructing social meaning of men in the new era and the other is men inner work by with making available counselling for men, group work, men well being meetings and gatherings of men.

After my own experience working with men groups for over 10 years, I have been promoting the following list about how to enable a shift in masculine perception and to develop positive and healthy masculinity:

1.       Stop calling and labelling men as ‘toxic”. This labelling is unhealthy and promotes a negative perspective of men.( see definition below)

2.       Pay attention to the young man as he is showing a need for adventure. Some say the SOUL speaks to him.

3.       After the need to adventure, the search begins. Men are searching how to grow and develop as healthy models to self and others. I often hear men speak about their wounds that come from the father (usually absent father).

4.       Men that are wounded, usually search for answers as to how feel compatible and strong with other men. They may search for a Mentor (teacher). Older friend or Uncle. Young men search in heroes, superheroes in the movies and so on.

5.       Self-Discovery as a way to the man’s soul. SOULCRAFT is one way to discover a man’s inner purpose.

6.       Working in men’s groups or gatherings we often share openly about our depressions, losses, questioning our self-worth, drugs, alcohol and so on.

7.       Developing positive personal resources as to: who am I? what I can be? And what I can do as a man?  The old cliché: “Boys will be boys” is to be rejected as a false attribute to men.

8.       Finally, leaders, mentors and mature men must encourage men to attend training about leading men groups.


I am planning a men- after- 50 group in my practice for 2020. It will be a meeting of mature men who are ready to work on their personal growth and learn skills to become a Mentor to younger men in search of being authentic and healthy men. Here is a suggested list of topics – issues we will address:

-          Physical and mental health
-          Personal shifts in self and lifestyle
-          Masculine identity and purpose in today’s world
-          Fear, loneliness and our mortality
-          Developing relationship skills with women

All meetings will be once a month (dates to be set) and the working approach will be based on my own professional experiences in Gestalt Therapy, group work, Existential philosophy and positive psychology.

NOTE: There is already a group of men over 50 meeting in Bangalow NSW. Please contact Nava @ 0400338946 or Michael @ 0421480076



RESOURCES

Unmasking masculinity

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LBdnjqEoiXA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmkFdAMFGXo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4SK0XQN6_do



 A BIT OF HISTORY
I always like to follow up what the media is writing as most of it is based on poor facts and sensationalism. Therefore, I am including some of my research about the sources of the word Toxic and Toxic Masculinity:

TOXIC - A DEFINITION

adjective
of, pertaining to, affected with, or caused by a toxin or poison:
a toxic condition.
acting as or having the effect of a poison; poisonous:
a toxic drug.
causing unpleasant feelings; harmful or malicious:
a toxic man, criticism of men.
pertaining to or noting debt that will probably not be repaid:
toxic mortgages.
pertaining to or noting a financial instrument or other asset that has no value or an unknown value because there is no market for it:
toxic mortgage-backed securities.



TOXIC MASCULINITY

The concept of toxic masculinity is used in psychology and media discussions of masculinity to refer to certain cultural norms that are associated with harm to society and to men themselves. Traditional stereotypes of men as socially dominant, along with related traits such as misogyny and homophobia, can be considered "toxic" due in part to their promotion of violence, including sexual assault and domestic violence. The socialization of boys often normalizes violence, such as in the saying "boys will be boys" about bullying and aggression.

Self-reliance and emotional repression are correlated with increased psychological problems in men such as depression, increased stress, and substance abuse. Toxic masculine traits are characteristic of the unspoken code of behaviour among men in prisons, where they exist in part as a response to the harsh conditions of prison life.

Other traditionally masculine traits such as devotion to work, pride in excelling at sports, and providing for one's family, are not considered to be "toxic". The concept was originally used by authors associated with the mythopoetic men's movement such as Shepherd Bliss to contrast stereotypical notions of masculinity with a "real" or "deep" masculinity that they say men have lost touch within modern society. We need to separate ‘toxic masculinity “ from Healthy masculinity.

MYTHOPOETIC MEN'S MOVEMENT




Poet Robert Bly in the middle 




The mythopoetic men's movement was a body of self-help activities and therapeutic workshops and retreats for men undertaken by various organizations and authors in the United States from the early 1980s through the 1990s. The term mythopoetic was coined by professor Shepherd Bliss in preference to the term "New Age men's movement". Mythopoets adopted a general style of psychological self-help inspired by the work of Robert Bly, Michael Meade, Robert A. Johnson, Joseph Campbell, and other Jungian authors. The group activities used in the movement were largely influenced by ideas derived from Jungian psychology, e.g., Jungian archetypes, from which the use of myths and fairy tales taken from various cultures served as ways to interpret challenges facing men in society.

Groups formed during the mythopoetic men's movement typically avoided political and social advocacy in favour of therapeutic workshops and wilderness retreats, often performing Native American rituals such as drumming, chanting, and sweat lodges. These rituals were organized to facilitate the personal growth of participants (most often middle-class, middle-aged males) with an intended purpose of connecting spiritually with a lost deep masculine identity or inner self. The most well-known text of the movement was Iron John: A Book About Men by the poet Robert Bly, who argued that "male energy" had been diluted through modern social institutions such as the feminist movement, industrialization, and separation of fathers from family life through working outside the home. Bly urged men to recover a pre-industrial conception of masculinity through spiritual camaraderie with other men in male-only gatherings. The purpose of these activities was to foster greater understanding of the forces influencing the roles of men in modern society and how these changes affect behaviour, self-awareness, and identity.

Sometimes mistakenly referred to simply as the men's movement, which is much broader, the mythopoetic movement is best known for the rituals that take place during their gatherings. While most in the public eye during the early 1990s, the movement carries on more quietly in The Mankind Project and independent psychological-spiritual practitioners.

I am very proud to be part of the Mythopoetic movement in Australia and I have renamed this experience as SOULCRAFT.













Tuesday, August 27, 2019

SEPTEMBER - 2019



                                                WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT --- MEN!



The evolution of masculinity


Most articles about ‘free speech’ stemming from the “politically correct” club, identity politics and even the #Me Too movement, promote all sorts of agendas to create a social obedience. Anyone who expresses him/herself openly in the media, are immediately attacked for their work. Artists, writers, political commentators etc, are persecuted for their ideas.

However, the group that is increasingly pushed against the wall and must “watch their back” are men. In my recent REFLECTIONS, I noted that there seems to be a strong rebuttal to this trend to ‘badmouth” men coming (and from a woman writer) is the title of the book by Bettina Arndt: # MENTOO. It is an open and well researched book about how the 'politically correct' mob, are destroying masculinity calling it “toxic” including all sorts of negative labelling attempting to emasculate men..



Another female author: Lionel Shriver states that “identity politics could lead to ‘bad art’ and I would add that it also would destroy relationships between men and women. Particularly damaging the young adults of today. It appears that this ‘witch hunt’ against men is spreading all over the icons of free speech – the universities. They are totally out of reality and lacking any facts. “It is a rat’s nest of hysterical super sensitivity” states the novelist Lionel Shriver. It is time to push back against this phenomenon of politically correct and identity politics hysteria and write with open proven facts about the absurdity of the claims against men. All people need to express their frustration to this mediocre fad that is contributing to a climate of social constraint in all aspects of creativity and identity. One example of this absurdity is the requirement to use the pronouns: ZE and ZIR or CRISGENDER in schools as a gender-neutral references to he and she. 

We hope that those who rise to this absurdity must work at all levels of society to stop this trend to eliminate what Nature has developed over millions of years. That is: male and female creatures on this earth including humans.

To begin this Reflection for this month, I am including here my comments on Masculinity to the Australia Association of Counselling. Their newsletter offered some ideas about counselling men using a variety of skills to help men. However, few men are attending counselling for fear of being labelled mentally incompetent. My own experience working with men over the past ten years, I became convinced that the various counselling (or therapy) ‘models of practice’ do not help. Most theories are not designed to help men but are of a generic nature. Men like and get a lot from being in a group gathering and sharing their personal stories with other men listening. They benefit from initiation rituals and men events that give them a strong identity and support to a path of wholeness.


ACA Newsletter on "MEN AND EMOTIONS”

Having read your article about “Men and Emotions: From Repression to Expression”, I congratulate the Association for the support you have initiated to the issue of emotions and men and questioning the raising gender zealotry in recent times that is contributing to the main cause of the crises in men, particularly the young men.

“Today, any celebration of masculinity is limited to praising men who do more housework, get more involved with the children, and men who are able to cry, empathise with women issues and openly express their ‘soft feelings’.” As stated by Janet Albrechtsen in the Australian newspaper. Another article by Peter Gonis states that: “Years ago they used a knife to castrate young boys, today it is castration with anti-male language”. A third article that is published in the RACQ magazine by Jessica Wilson, states that “stereotypes of masculinity are harming Australian men”.

So, perhaps we are noticing a new social awareness that is becoming more open about the crisis of identity that men (particularly young men) that are undergoing in our modern age. It seems an error to demonise men as psychologically sick or experiencing some mental health issues, but it is the current so called “political correctness” that is relentlessly attacking masculinity.

A study at the University of Queensland, has revealed that young men who tend to conform to the traditional definition or stereotype of manhood, are set up in so called “Man Box” as being bad and  therefore are twice as likely to consider suicide and several times are more likely to become violent towards others.

Naturally, these men develop poor mental health and do not seek counselling but resort to binge drinking and traffic accidents. This study concludes that the traditional definitions of masculinity are generational - meaning that they are passed from grandfather to father and then to son. Thus, the result is that there is a big pressure on men from the anti-male activists, on one side and the old ideas about who is a male from the older family members and old beliefs on the other side. Psychological counselling, therefore, will not work.

The suggestion I am offering, based on ten years working with men groups, is to develop emotional skills with young men led by elder Mentors, and leaders that can bridge the gap (or a black hole) to enable men to express their masculinity and their deeper emotional needs. Having experienced hundreds of men groups, I am convinced that it is useless and even harmful to reduce masculinity to an illness needing counselling that is not working and adds to the collective psycho-cultural crisis.

It is about time that the Associations like the AIPC ( Counselling), Ganz(Gestalt), AASW (social work) and so on, begin to support healthy masculinity and stop those who attack men as “toxic males” because this attitude of castrating men psychologically and socially  will not work but only aggravate the impact on all  our society.

Of course, we will have people of all genders that will be offended by healthy premises about men, but their offences cannot erase the way Nature selects all species and gives us gifts without much care about who may be offended. Yet men today are expected to reject their masculinity to avoid offending those who are always offended.Here are some consequences:

SOME NATIONAL STATISTICS ABOUT THE MEN CRISIS
1.            One in five men experience depression in a twelve-month period.
2.            Three quarters of people who die by suicide are men.
3.            Six Australian men between 15-44 take their own lives each day.
4.            One in five men will experience an anxiety condition due to stress.
5.            Men are less likely to seek help for mental health than women.

Indian god vishnu and consort