Saturday, July 31, 2021

AUGUST - 2021


 

ARE WE ENDING AN ERA?



Drawing of John of Patmos

 

ARE WE ENDING AN ERA? – YARO STARAK

“Some of the water of life tries to enter the world and flow through each of us. So that the collective and personal crises which all are facing now may threaten our habitual ways of being and acting on one level of life, while opening the doors of vision and understanding on other levels. Part of what happens amid all the uncertainty and liminality, because we are changing in ourselves, our relationships change, and we can find new ways of relating to other people, but also to nature and also to the divine.” Michael Meade

Recently I was listening to Meade’s podcast about the old story of John of Patmos who was banned to a cave near Greece and wrote his prophecy about the coming of APOCALIPSIS. Here is what history tells us:

Early tradition says that John was banished to Patmos by the Roman authorities. This tradition is credible because banishment was a common punishment used during the Imperial period for a number of offenses. Among such offenses were the practices of magic and astrology. Prophecy was viewed by the Romans as belonging to the same category, whether Pagan, Jewish, or Christian. Prophecy with political implications, like that expressed by John in the Book of Revelation, would have been perceived as a threat to Roman political power and order. (Natural History 4.69–70; Tacitus, Annals).

I am reflecting about the current ‘Revelations’ about a rare coronavirus that supposedly came out of a fish market in China and quickly spread globally. That pandemic is only an example of what people like John of Patmos (if he were alive today) would proclaim the end of the world as we know it.

 Currently, we are in several crisis that are threatening our survival as humans. Covid-19, fires in Canada and California, Floods in Europe and many more disasters everywhere. The modern apocalyptic story is now with us and many so called “experts” are filling the web and social media with extreme stories of our demise.

The great predictions of John have not materialised, and I am certain that we will also solve the many challenges this time. In the meantime, I am proposing a way to spend the time (in lockdown) by placing an empty chair in front of you and have a ‘dialogue’ with yourself. Gestalt therapy is a way to discover how to live HERE AND NOW and create space only for you. Videotaping or recording your dialogue is very useful for healing self and help others. There is no coming back or ‘returning’ to the “New Normal”, as many leaders and experts are promising. Everyone must examine their inner soul and discover what is the NEW TIME.

The water of life is flowing as Michael Meade says: “When I hear people talking about returning to normal, I find myself repeating the idea that normal cannot know itself. Normal is not a place anyone really wants to be, especially if a person wants to be themselves. Since there is no normal self, the idea of living in normal is truly self-defeating.

Rather, we have a desperate need to figure out how to go forward, which means finding our way to a better place, one that is more inclusive of all kinds of people, but also more inclusive of the various parts of our own selves that are often excluded from the ideas and the practices of normal. There is also a danger in trying to return too quickly in ways that are not healing or reassuring to our own souls”

 

BEARS IN ALASKA

I am proposing here a metaphor to reflect upon. Recently I saw a video of several bears catching salmon on a river flowing downward and the salmon jumping up stream and the bears skilfully catching as many as possible. Perhaps we are the “bears” catching all we can to live a rich and healthy life while the climate changes and pandemics are closing in on us, and we are not aware or do not care.

Most people are attached to solutions that give us expert answers in exaggerated images of what is good for everyone. But in troubled times we get attached to extreme visions (like John of Patmos) believing in fantasies, prophecies and conspiracies.

I was reflecting about the bears catching salmon and one thought came to me about the river slowly getting dry and the salmon will not be able to jump to produce new ones up-stream and the bears will go hungry and even die. I do not know what the bears will do to survive but we human beings have a mighty brain that is capable to survive and by creatively design solutions and in time, the Apocalyptic fears will dissolve as time goes by.

I have some ideas already to fine-tune our creative thinking and stay ready for the ‘light at the end of the tunnel’. One idea came to me reading a book by Sol Luckman: POTENTIATE YOUR DNA, another one is by Pedram Shojai THE URBAN MONK.

The first book claims to have the secret to regenerate your DNA using specific sound effects.

Here is what the author said: The Potentiation session initiates a progressive repatterning designed to “reset” your bioenergy fields, which serve as the blueprint for your body-mind-spirit and, as such, when distorted by trauma or toxicity (or both), can induce dysfunctions of various kinds.

 In the second book, (a bit simpler to understand) we can use his healing methods. The author states:

“Chronic stress is a killer. Modern stressors are basically death by a thousand cuts. Our abstract concept of money or currency is tied to our very survival and triggers the same circuitry. It messes with us and stresses us out. Money is tight, and deep down that means something that our bodies understand viscerally. Low levels of cortisol release over a sustained period have terrible consequences for the body.”

I am reflecting about the word “MONEY”. I am imagining that this is our biggest stressor. Like the bears frantically fishing on the river, we frantically ‘fish’ for more and more money. Statistics in the Western world indicate that we are coming to a “dry season” as there are more and more poor and only a few rich. Governments are frantically getting Covid vaccines and businesses are closed on lockdown.

So, I am suggesting some ‘at home’ simple rituals to stay alert and well, the Urban Monk suggests:

CLENSING

1.    Light a candle.

2. Take holy sage and light it and cleanse yourself with the smoke

3. Breathe in the new YOU!

4. Breathe in 4 x and hold breath for 4 x and exhale 4x.

5. Do the ritual 3 times.


MEDITATION OR MINDFULLNESS

Try to use meditation as an operating system instead. This means you constantly scan your consciousness and cue for calm. You can sense thoughts that make you reactive and uneasy, and you learn to let them pass. You don’t let them knock you off your perch.


LEARN TO LISTEN

 Millions of bits of information pass through your brain every second. From the position of your foot to the wind hitting your face, it’s all data that reflects in the mind as noise. There’s also a steady stream of past memories, trauma, emotions, and pain that your brain is constantly working to keep at arm’s distance. It is loud up there. Most people first notice this when they try to meditate and panic when they realize it . . . chaos is actually inside.


SHAKE IT OUT

Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart, with your hands in front of your torso. ​

Turn your palms so they’re facing your chest, as if you’re holding a tree or beach ball in front of you.

​Bend your knees slightly and curl your tongue so it’s touching the roof of your mouth. ​

Breathe gently in through your nose and out through your nose to your lower abdomen. ​Keep your shoulders, wrists—and your entire body—relaxed. ​This is called Tree Pose or Tai Chi Pose.

​Let yourself relax into this stance and take a few breaths into your lower abdomen. ​Allow your body to start subtly moving around within the confines of the stance.


WALK BAREFOOT IN THE GRASS

Take a walk to the park and take off your shoes and just slowly walk on the grass and you will feel the regeneration that the Earth is giving your body. Do this every day or at least on weekends.

 

 

NAMASTE!







Friday, July 2, 2021

JULY 2021 BLOG



Fritz Perls
 

Dear Readers,

I am starting this July blog a bit late due to a lot of complex issues, both personal and social. Brisbane is now on lockdown for about 4 days, and I personally am not choosing to get the AstraZeneca vaccine and waiting to get the Pfizer one. However, the good news is that I am inspired to write more and share myself online.

One of my reflections this week, was on the matter of Elderhood. I wrote a paper on “Chaos Theory and Elderhood” and this paper was accepted as a discussion paper at the AASW (Association of Social Work) international conference to be held in Brisbane  in November of this year.

  The other topic that I am reflecting on, is the Mentoring Initiation for men over 50 and who are ready and willing to help the young men of today in their initiation into adulthood. This idea comes from my attending the MANSHINE event last month where 130 men shared their stories in small and big group gatherings every day.

At this event, I noticed a small group of elder men that called themselves “old cogers." I joined them excited to hear their stories and share my own.  Being with the elders there, I became  inspired to design a proposal for men over 50, where they could join me in a group that will learn and experience the skills of Mentoring, leadership, initiation rites and more.

As a gestalt therapist and trainer of group leaders, for over 20 years, I want to share my skills and knowledge with men who can become facilitators and develop Mentoring abilities to help young men. My own Mentor, Michael Meade, gave me a lot of tools and ideas by way of rituals, stories, myths and poems that led me to design a "bag" of teaching tools. I add here my own gestalt theory and practice to enhance the Humanistic perspective.

You may listen to Michael Meade’s podcast by clicking on the link below.

 

Michael Meade podcast: 


 

 What follows is a facilitators program ideas for Mentors -  a gestalt approach in working with groups. Much of this content was derived from my readings of  books by Malcolm Parlett and others.

1. The group is an ‘organism-environment’ field consisting of multiple forces in functional interrelationship to each other and to the whole.

2. Experience has an underlying structure

3. The group field has multi-boundaries.

4. The group field is multi-layered.

5. The group has many contexts (field conditions), all of which affect its here-and-now process.

6. We can discover the nature and structure of the group field both by observation and by systematic experimentation.

7. Everyone has a point of view, and no point of view is inherently preferable to any other.

8. The observer is always and necessarily part of the situation, and affects the object of study, and vice versa.

9. We should try to distinguish ‘naïve experience’ from theories, hypotheses, assumptions, preconceptions etc.

10. Begin by describing phenomena, rather than trying to explain them.

11. All information is potentially relevant.

THE FIELD PERSPECTIVE

Gestalt therapy has a particular version of field theory. Its starting point is the ‘organism-environment field’, a field that is created and sustained from the interactions of humans (and other animals) and their environment. In this field many kinds of factors operate at the same time. I am a physical body, also biologically an animal, as well as a therapist – a social role – an Australian, etc. All these are part of the field, and all must be considered in any investigation of the field. Let me illustrate this more concretely:

Imagine that I am a therapist who is starting a new group. The members arrive and settle themselves in the group room. I look around at them, noticing my own feelings and wondering what theirs are. As I sit in the group room waiting for the group to start, my present physical environment includes air to breathe, a chair to support my body, and a room temperature. Looking out of the window, I can see trees being blown by a blustery wind.

All group phenomena are 'of’' the field, in the strong sense of being actually constituted by the field and its complex structures and dynamics. The people and events of the group are continually mutually influencing and affecting each other so that no events in the group field are isolated from other events. We sometimes describe this in Gestalt as ‘co-creation’ – I create something that is in turn helping to create me…and so on.

FIGURE AND GROUND

Returning, again to the group, I notice that it is time to start, and close the door to signify this. Looking round, I see Jim sitting silently, without his usual energy. I wonder what is up with him. For a few moments, he is the centre of my attention, and stands out for me. At that moment, I do not notice the others in the group. They have momentarily faded into the background.

The point is a general one: in perception, we do not see all things equally. At any given moment, some things are 'figural', and grab our attention. Then something else stands out for us, and the previous figure recedes into the background. We are continually organising and re-organising our experiences of ourselves and the environment into a series of 'meaningful wholes' or gestalts in this way.

MULTIPLE BOUNDARIES IN THE GROUP FIELD

In Gestalt theory, experience occurs at the boundary between the organism and its environment. This boundary is sometimes called ‘the contact boundary’, and its operation is what creates the world as we experience it.

‘Contact’ – being in touch with objects – is the basis of both our sensing of the world, and our action within it. Contact, in Gestalt theory is ‘the simplest and first reality’. It is through this contact that the boundaries that come to define us as human organisms and as people in the world come to be constructed. Let me briefly show how this occurs.

For our purposes, it is useful to think of three different boundaries operating in the formation of experience. First is the so-called ‘self’ boundary. This includes my body-boundary (skin surface) and the sensory organs which operate in it and which give me my basic experience of the world – sights, sounds, smells, surfaces and so on. Next is the ‘Me’ boundary. This is where I begin to get a sense of myself: who I am, what I want. I do this by making choices about which bits of the world are important and interesting to me, and which are not. I identify with some things and alienate myself from others, giving myself a sense of I and not-I. Finally, is my ‘Social’ boundary, where I can be aware how others and I would describe or characterize me.

THE GROUP FIELD HAS MANY LAYERS

Both the group leader and the group members are trying, in their different ways, to gain insight into the structure and dynamics of the group field, right here and now. I would like now to consider a way to divide up and focus in on current process that is of particular interest and use to group leaders. This involves identifying three natural 'levels' of group life: the individual level, the interpersonal level, and the group-as-a-whole. If the group leader understands these levels, then he can organise his observation and intervention in the group setting by choosing to concentrate, as appropriate and useful, on the behaviour and experience of group members as individuals; on the interactions between individuals, and on the 'group-as-a-whole', the group system.

I believe that this way of looking at group life in terms of 'levels' stems directly from Gestalt’s holistic roots. When we talk of levels, we are talking about the hierarchical ways in which the group field is structured by natural and social forces, and our attempts as group leaders and members to gain insight into this structure both by how we conceive it and how we act within it. AS A WHOLE

SEVERAL WAYS TO NOTICE THE GROUP ZONES OF AWARENESS

(i) Here and Now: This is what goes on in group sessions, the here-and-now process of the group. In field theory, this is what is 'real', our primary therapeutic focus. A few of the relevant field factors which constitute the group process are: the physical conditions of the group room, group member's current feelings and desires, individual contact styles, contact patterns between individuals (pairs and sub-groups), energy levels and so on.

(ii) There and Now: This zone includes factors relating to the current (spatially) external field in which the group operates. This includes group member's current lives outside the group and between sessions, the location of the group room, events in the world that may be impacting on the group in some way (in the electronic age, spatial distance is irrelevant). The current pandemic is creating a need of spatial distance.

(iii) Here and Then: This refers to the group's history, what has happened to group members in previous sessions. This includes their memories of what has happened, and fantasies and stories about the past.

(iv) There and Then: This largely refers to the past history of group members - their life stories.

DISCOVER THE NATURE AND STRUCTURE OF THE GROUP FIELD BY OBSERVATION AND EXPERIMENTATION

Uncovering the structure of the actual situation is a key task for the leader and the group together. Sometimes this is done by observation, noticing something, perhaps making a comment, and sometimes by an experiment, trying something out to see what happens. When we do this, the underlying structure is often made more visible. A feature of group life that was not in individual or group awareness suddenly becomes figural.

The more we understand how this process of exploration and discovery works, the more we can systematically endeavor to make the field structure visible by exploration and experiment: ‘What will happen if I/you/we….?” Some simple but relevant questions that group leaders and members might ask themselves are:

· What, in general, seems possible or not possible here and now?

· What can be done or not done?

· What can be said or can’t be said?

· What can be felt and what is rarely or never felt?

· What do we know and what do we avoid knowing?

· What are the present enabling and restraining forces around possible group events?

So even though several people are in a group room together, their phenomenal experiences are all different. They will have different perceptions, needs, desires and backgrounds. No two people will experience the group process exactly the same, and sometimes perceptions will vary very widely indeed. There is therefore no absolute objective 'truth' about how the group really is. The best we can hope for is an inter-subjective, negotiated view of what is going on which allows for multiple perspectives.

The implications of this for group processing are profound. Even if we think that a situation is repeating itself, we must recognise this is literally impossible. Every situation and every experience is, if we consider it fully enough, unique, different to any which has preceded it. This does not mean that there are not regularities, that one situation will never resemble another, but that the resemblance is always partial and limited.

THE OBSERVER IS ALWAYS PART OF THE TOTAL SITUATION AND AFFECTS EVERYBODY.

In groups we are all observers sometimes, noticing things that happen or do not happen, aware of ourselves, others, the group in the situation. And we are also subject of observation by others. We act and are acted upon in turn.

This applies to the group leader as much as to any other group member. The group leader has an important role to play in the group, but he always remains part of the group field. The idea that the leader is (or should be) a separate, objective figure who must somehow distance himself from the other group members in order to study them does not fit with a field theory perspective. No longer, in this relational universe, can we study anything as separate from ourselves. Our acts of observation are part of the process that brings forth the manifestation of what we are observing.

  BEGIN BY DESCRIBING PHENOMENA, RATHER THAN TRYING TO EXPLAIN THEM

If we take a phenomenological approach, then several things become clear. The first is that our knowledge of the group comes through the experience of all its members. Not just the group leader, but also everyone who is in, and experiencing, the group has something to offer. there is no single truth about what is happening in the group or about group process. If several people have a similar experience, which they then interpret in a similar way, then there will, to that extent, be a consensual reality, but it is not ‘the truth’ of the situation.

Perhaps the group has a feeling of stuckness that we cannot understand, until we realize that several people are feeling angry with the leader but are not voicing this feeling. Once we realize that this is happening, we have an ‘Aha!’ experience. So that’s what was going on! Suddenly the energy rises, and people start to relate more freely…

 BEGIN BY DESCRIBING PHENOMENA, RATHER THAN TRYING TO EXPLAIN THEM

This theme encourages us to initially focus on our immediate and concrete experience, and not to rush to explanations and theories too quickly. Of course,  we can never escape theorising at a conscious or unconscious level entirely, but we can learn to recognise the continuum between more concrete description at one end, and more abstract theorising at the other. Once we appreciate this, we can combine our observing and theorising more effectively.

CONCLUSION

The gestalt work with groups is not the only way to describe and work with group process, and no way is ‘truer’ than any other approaches. Whether you use the Gestalt approach described here, or prefer some other, the approach you use is a means to an end, and the end is helping you and group members to get greater understanding of the complex and constantly changing facets of the overall group process.

 

READING LIST

John Harris [1995], 'Working with Large Groups and Teams', Topics in Gestalt Therapy Vol 3 No 2

Malcolm Parlett [1991], 'Reflections on Field Theory', British Gestalt Journal, Volume 1 No 2

Peter Philippson & John Bernard Harris [1992], Gestalt: Working with Groups, Manchester Gestalt Centre

*Peter Philippson [1995], 'Why Shouldn't We Interrupt?', Topics in Gestalt Therapy Vol 3 No 2

Ernesto Spinelli [1992] The Interpreted World: An Introduction to Phenomenological Psychology, Sage Pubs 1989

Starak, Yaro (2012), Group Work Skills.

Shaw Martin  The Branch From the Lightning Tree .White Cloud Press