JANUARY 2019 - WISDOM

SHIFTING PERSPECTIVES

DEAR READERS,

I am now sitting in my cool room looking at the sunny Queensland summer (37C). Only a few days ago we had a celebration of Christmas and now it is no more. We are enjoying a real sense of Peace in this small world in Brisbane, Australia. Such a holiday or Holy-day is what most of us wish but not many can achieve the reality. Just open the TV on the 24 hrs news and we are filled with catastrophes like the tsunami in Indonesia, the Syrian war, bombings in Kabul, stock markets down and children starving everywhere. Michael Meade, the mythologist just wrote an article “ The Threat of Tyranny” and here is a quote:

“These are Titan times when huge changes sweep through the institutions of culture while great shifts disrupt climate patterns all over the earth. Amidst storms of change, it takes very little to tear the skin of civilization and reveal massive emotional wounds full of fear and anger, resentment and vengeance. Amidst growing uncertainties, it takes very little to incite rage and provoke violence."

Michael Meade

Read the full article here: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/michael-meade-dhl/the-threat-of-tyranny_b_11435462.html  The threat of tyrany

So, as we are approaching the new year 2019, it may be a good idea to reflect about how, we as therapists and healers, can help by  sending a new message to all in order to generate a shift in that old negative perspective that shows only “doom and gloom” and  promote a new positive psychology.

 I therefore, wish to share an article written by the psychologist Christopher Peterson form the University of Michigan USA.

Positive Psychology: The Underpinning Notions

Christopher Peterson

Professor of Psychology, University of Michigan

Positive psychology, which has recently enjoyed a burgeoning base of research support, is “the scientific study of optimal functioning, performance, and wellbeing” (Langley & Francis, 2016). It asks not what is broken and needing to be fixed, but what is working, what is good in people and life. It wants to know what the positive experiences, characteristics, and practices are that enable individuals, institutions, and communities to live happy, productive, fulfilling lives. It is about flourishing and thriving, not merely surviving.

Accordingly, it gives pride of place to the characteristics of abundance, a focus on virtues and strengths, embracing positive deviance, and flourishing rather than languishing (Langley & Francis, 2016). We look at these in more detail below.

Abundance

Viewing people as competent, creative, and resourceful, positive psychology looks through an abundance lens to help people, organisations, and communities thrive and excel. Positive outcomes and performance can be facilitated, it says, as people access their inner resources and create the outcomes to which they aspire, rather than seeing themselves as victims (Langley & Francis, 2016).

Focus on strengths and virtues

This assumption says that everyone has strengths and deserves to be respected for them. At the heart of positive psychology is the idea that effort is better directed to strengthen what is working well than to try to “fix” what is “broken”. Concentrating on talents, positive characteristics, and special abilities allows people to deal with growing edges, or weaknesses. The corollary idea is that positive psychology itself is an ethical approach in suggesting that human beings and their systems possess a latent desire and capacity to improve themselves, and that this should be activated (Langley & Francis, 2016).

Embracing positive deviance

When positive psychologists talk about adopting a stance of positive deviance, they are acknowledging an evolutionary bias toward the negative: negative emotions, interpretations, and thoughts are often stronger and more numerous than positive ones. Human beings tend to respond more intensely – and automatically – to negative events. While that has been appropriately self-protective, especially at some earlier stages of human evolution, it now means that we are kept from devoting time, energy, and other resources to those projects and concerns which would move us toward greater wellbeing and success. Positive psychology proposes that we amplify our positive emotions, thus re-setting the bias from negative to positive. When we act from positive deviance, we go against the grain, thinking “outside the box” and suddenly gaining access to solutions that aren’t apparent with a deficit focus (Langley & Francis, 2016).

Flourishing and languishing

Hot and cold, night and day, and dark and light are all polar opposites, but – in the paradigm of positive psychology – mental illness and mental health are not. Langley cites the work of Corey Keyes, whose work studying the relationship between mental health and mental illness has shown that, rather than being at opposite ends of the same spectrum, they lie on different continua. Thus, the absence of mental illness does not mean the presence of mental health and treating the former does not ensure the latter (Keyes, 2005, in Langley & Francis, 2016). A person can be lacking any identifiable mental illness, yet be languishing if she has poor social networks, is chronically distressed, and/or is leading a very unfulfilling life.

Authentic happiness: What do we mean and why do we care?

Although philosophers such as Aristotle and Epicurus advocated leading the “good life”, they defined that as “pleasure-seeking”. Few people in the middle of a delicious meal, with a favourite beverage and good friends to share it all with, would say that they were not having a happy time. However, in his book, Authentic Happiness, Seligman (2004) explained that there is much more to a happy life than good times filled with pleasure.  He distinguished several levels of happiness.

1) The Pleasurable or Pleasant Life. This sort of happiness is also referred to as subjective wellbeing and consists of hedonic experience: sensual delights, high life satisfaction, low levels of negative emotion, and high levels of positive emotion (Langley & Francis, 2016). It is a life that successfully pursues the positive emotions about the present, past, and future (Pursuit of Happiness, 2016a). It is this level or type of happiness that figured in the work of Aristotle and Epicurus. The question for this level may be: “How do I feel? What emotions do I experience in the moment?” (Langley, 2017)

2) The Engaged or Good Life. As we satisfy the need for pleasure, we want more. We want to be engaged in a mindful way, as we come to realise the satisfaction possible through concentrating intensely on a task or activity which we are using our strengths to perform and which takes us out of our ordinary consciousness, perhaps into a state of flow, as that was explained by Csikszentmihalyi (1990). At this level, people use their signature strengths (Seligman and his colleague identified 24) to obtain abundant gratification, through enjoyed activities, in the main realms of their lives (Pursuit of Happiness, 2016a). “Doing” happiness at this level engages us in more of our wholeness than mere pleasure-seeking, but it is still not all that it is possible to attain.

3) The Meaningful Life. At the highest levels of happiness delineated by Seligman, we see a person imbued with meaning and purpose. Called eudaemonic or psychological wellbeing, the meaningful life involves personal growth, self-acceptance, autonomy, positive relationships, environmental mastery, and a strong sense of purpose in life. It happens when people use their signature strengths and virtues in the service of something much larger than themselves (Pursuit of Happiness, 2016a). The relevant question for this level of happiness is: “How do I feel about my life? Am I satisfied with my life generally?” (Langley, 2017; Positive Psychology Institute, 2012).

“Side effects” of wellbeing

The answer to that question seems obvious: we want to be happy because it feels good! Yet there is more. Research shows that higher levels of wellbeing are correlated with:

Being healthier (including recovering more quickly when one does get sick) Having a stronger immune system.

Living longer, with a better quality of life

Being more tolerant of pain

Achieving greater success in all areas of life (including the workplace) Having higher levels of caring and altruism

Being more resilient

Being more socially engaged

Having better quality relationships (that is, more satisfied in relationships and less likely to experience problems, but more likely to deal with any problems effectively)

Performing better academically

Considering oneself to be luckier (Langley, 2017; Sharp, 2014).

This article was adapted from the course “Positive Psychology: The Basics”.

References:

Langley, S., & Francis, S. (2016). White paper: The science and practice of positive psychology: Promoting human happiness, performance, and wellbeing. Australia: Langley Group. Retrieved on 28 October, 2017, from: hyperlink.

Langley, S. (2017). Lecture for Masterclass day on positive psychology topics for Mental Health Academy. Langley Group: Australia.

Positive Psychology Institute. (2012). Key terms. Positive Psychology Institute. Retrieved on 24 October, 2017, from: hyperlink.

Pursuit of Happiness. (2016b). William James. The pursuit of happiness.  Retrieved on 29 October, 2017, from: hyperlink.

Sharp, T. (2014). Get happy: Using the powerful principles of positive psychology to live your best life!  Positive Times. Retrieved on 24 October, 2017, from: hyperlink.

DECEMBER 2018 - GRATITUDE

GRATITUDE

Dear readers, this is the time now to reflect about Gratitude. The year 2018 is ending and 2019 is coming. I am grateful about many things past and to Michael Meade whom I consider my mentor for the last 10 years or so. He still inspires me with his talks and writings. This is his message:

“In these dark and confusing times, we need occasions of grace and moments of wholeness to rekindle our spirits as well as ease our souls. Holidays and holy days found all over the world are intended to bring us back to the sense that life is a gift continuously waiting to be revealed and that our souls can be a source of abundance through even the darkest times.

Cicero is credited with having stated that “gratitude is the parent of all virtues.” He may have been considering that becoming grateful, if only for a moment, can make us feel whole again. He may have known that the feeling of gratitude is secretly connected to the gift of life and that each time we experience life as a gift, our life takes on greater meaning.

Gratitude can be difficult to express because it comes from a deep place in the heart where pain can also dwell. Yet, as indicated by the old practice of “saying grace” to convey thankfulness, gratitude and grace are connected. Feeling grateful and expressing gratitude helps to bring grace back into the world.

The presence of gratitude also serves as an indication of the natural nobility in our souls. Although thankfulness may be expressed in words, gratitude appears in each act of consciously giving as well as in the moments of gratefully receiving. In that sense, the giving of even the smallest gift can be a genuine expression of gratitude for the gift of life.”

Michael Meade

Here and Now, other reflections emerge when we approach the new year: Faith, Hope and Love. 

Living in Australia, we call it a natural paradise. This vast continent is full of natural gifts to all. Looking at a Jacaranda tree in my yard, full of purple flowers, I am aware of the “treeness” and enjoy the process of change and growth. The tree expresses Hope in its capacity of changing (leaves, flowers, seeds etc) are a promise of new birth and growth. This renewal is a symbol of Faith that all is in process. The branches and leaves give protection and food to the great variety of birds, butterflies, caterpillars and moths. This is an expression of Love – a sharing of everything that the tree can offer. The roots carry nutrients and minerals for the tree and keeps everything growing with each season. Each process is ‘invisible’ to us. But the tree is giving of its Love to all.

As I reflect about this 'tree' metaphor given by Keith Buzzell (Parabola 2018), I become aware how all of humanity must express gratitude for the wonders of Nature. Simply by observing the natural rhythm of trees I feel an impulse of loving the full expression of living in all beings, human and non-human. I can recognise the “me” in the presence of what is surrounding me at all times.

That awareness stimulates a sense of eternity shown in the cycles of life and of Hope that Love is ever present in ALL. Finally, I am Grateful to C.G. Jung who was the first to formulate and describe the meaning of COLLECTIVE UNCONSCIOUS, the universal phenomena that expresses all collective life.

REFLECTIONS ON THE SOUL

THE SOULCRAFT WAY

INTRODUCTION

This blog is a reflection for everyone interested in seeking the meaning and the WAY of the SOUL. Bill Plotking’s book mentions the word “Soulcraft”. This is a description of what I call “Soulwork”. I found that very few people really know about the part of us called The Soul. Therefore, I am offering here a summary of Bill’s book: Soulcraft: Crossing into the Mysteries of Nature and Psyche.  New World Library. Kindle Edition.

So, what is this phenomenon called SOUL? We can easily identify with our body and our mind, but the soul is an enigma for many. Here is a definition of what Bill is describing as SOUL and then followed by his process of working with the craft that helps us to discover our soul.

SOUL.

“The Soul is a person’s unique purpose or identity, a mythopoetic identity, something much deeper than personality or social-vocational role, an identity revealed and expressed through symbol and metaphor, image and dream, archetype and myth. Some other ways to say this: Soul is the ecological niche, or place, a person was born to occupy but may or may not ever discover or consciously embody”.

Plotkin, Bill. Wild Mind: A Field Guide to the Human Psyche (p. 13). New World Library. Kindle Edition.

SOUL POETRY, MUSIC, CHANTING, AND THE BARDIC TRADITION

Given that the soul prefers to speak in images and symbols, poetry — our own and others — is a natural pathway to soul. Poetry, “soul speech,” brings together the linguistic, linear part of the psyche with the imaginal, holistic part, enlisting the thinking mind in the service of soul, image, and feeling. By immersing ourselves in the rich symbols of verse, we enhance the ego’s ability to converse with soul. The subject matter and style of some poets resonate more with the spiritual descent than do others.  David Whyte, Rainer Maria Rilke, Mary Oliver, Jelaluddin Rumi, T. S. Eliot, and others, are extraordinarily soulful. The soul is enlivened and emboldened by poetry such as theirs.

The wound is the place where the Light enters you.

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there.
 When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.

Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion. RUMI

Poetry, dreams, nature, and soul weave through one another. Dreams are the poems of our souls. Soul is our deepest human nature, the under-dream stream of our lives. Wild nature is the ongoing dream of the earth, and our souls are essential components of that dream. Our individual night dreams are strands of the earth’s dream, just as our bodies are part of earth’s body. Nature offers herself to our senses in images, and poetry conveys those images. Immersion in nature is as effective a way as any to uncover and recover the soul. Soul-resonant poets are visionaries, people who have recovered their soul’s desires and strive to make those desires visible to others. Each one of us has this visionary capacity to sing the song of our souls.

BODY PRACTICES

There are several body practices, found in cultures the world over, that alter consciousness by shifting the body’s physiological state. These, too, can serve as pathways to soul. Consciousness-altering breathing techniques — from ancient practices such as yogic pranayama to modern disciplines like holotropic breathwork as developed by the transpersonal psychiatrist Stanislav Grof — act literally to inspire us. As we breathe in fully and rapidly, our biochemistry shifts, and we take in and join with the essence of the world. By altering the depth and rhythm of our breath, we can alter our relationship to the world and to ourselves. In addition to their use of breathing techniques, the many schools of yoga offer a great variety of physical postures (asanas) and movement (vinyasa) that not only stretch our bodies but also alter consciousness, thereby providing a doorway to soul.

FASTING

Fasting, as part of a vision quest or not, is another ancient and common method for altering consciousness. Literally emptying ourselves, we become a more receptive vessel for the gifts of soul. There are at least three ways that fasting works its magic on us. First, fasting (with or without water) for three days or more profoundly affects our nervous system and thus our consciousness. Most people report by the third day an astonishing clarity of perception, thought, feeling, and imagination. For many, hunger disappears, and a refined physical energy and alertness arise. Second, frequent hunger pangs remind our wandering minds to refocus attention on soulful intent. Third, as we grow weaker physically, our ego defences weaken as well. It becomes more difficult to maintain those everyday boundaries separating us from the vast mysteries within and without, the mysteries through which the soul might speak.

THE POWER OF SOULCENTRIC RITUAL

 Vision quests are grand and complex rituals. Much of their transformative power arises simply from the fact that they are rituals. Several features of rituals support the encounter with soul. Rituals are bodily enactments in real time and space, engaging us not only verbally, cognitively, imaginatively, and emotionally but also through our bodies, by way of symbolically rich gestures. As ritual participants, we are thoroughly active, not just listening, observing, or imagining but also living our deepest questions and truths, embodying our sacred symbols and life themes, and physically interacting with the archetypal qualities of the earth and the universal human experience.

Immersion in the ritual process draws from us more than we anticipate. The vision quester, for example, is not sitting in a room, feeling, imagining, and thinking. He is out on the land, in the wind, heat, and cold, exposed to the storm and the cries in the night. He is setting stones in the four directions. He is dancing her prayers, singing her heart out, crying to the earth and shouting at the sky for a vision, talking to the trees, the hawks, the moon, and the mountain. He is dressed in sacred robes, tying prayers into cloth bundles, adorning himself with flowers or thorns or mud, all in accord with the counsel of nature and her own soul. He is out on the land and fully embodied there. He is as fully present to his body and the breaking wave of his life as he has ever been.

Rituals are rooted in deeply meaningful symbols and the sacred objects that embody those symbols. The quester is in conversation with the quadrated circle, the wounded heart, images of the butterfly or dragonfly, the broken stick, the prayer arrow or God’s eye, the ancestor’s blessing, the parent’s ashes, the family’s coat of arms, the religious icon, the wedding ring, the medicine bag, the mask, the drum, the sacrificial fire. These symbols arouse the deepest desires of his heart, his greatest griefs and fears, the archetypal possibilities of the collective human unconscious, and his religious and spiritual yearnings. Through numinous power absorbed and emanated, they uncover sacred layers of his humanity. And they effectively awaken suppressed feeling, often provoking a profound healing crisis.

SOLITUDE

Through the practice of solitude, you, too, will discover the ways you are alienated from yourself and the world. You will come to grips with one of the most profound and implacable facts of the human condition: that in an essential way you are, in fact, alone. You were born alone and will die alone. In solitude you will learn how to live as a mortal human. You will learn to more deeply comfort yourself. You will learn how to move your attention from one place to another, neither avoiding nor indulging in the painful places. As a Wanderer, you must develop a relationship with your aloneness that is as profound and sacred as any other relationship in your life. You will come to belong to your aloneness as much as to any place, job, or community. “Solitudo” is Latin for nature. In true solitude, you remember yourself as a part of everything, a part of nature. You rediscover ease, inspiration, belonging, and wisdom in your own company.

ARCHETYPES

Archetypal forms and patterns exist not only in the human psyche but also in the outer world of nature. Wind, water, fire, mountain, rain, rainbow, bird, bat, butterfly, fish, snake, bear: earth archetypes. In the shamanic traditions, the apprentice learns his craft by using the refined powers of his imagination to become the various animals and qualities of nature, by merging with the earth archetypes and “re-membering” as he remembers he has always been nature. Moving from one archetypal nature identity to another: this is the genius of the shape-shifter within each of us. By becoming earth, through her forms and forces, we regain our souls.

The earth archetypes illuminate the edges of our understanding. We see the rainbow, and if we allow our imaginations to be generous, we discover the possibility of realizing our fondest dreams, the longing for treasure, the enchantment of the world, the thinness of the shimmering veil that separates us from the sacred, or the bridge to this world for the gods. We experience earth archetypes as significant, evocative, emotionally captivating, enchanting. Why are different individuals drawn to different elements of nature? Why those? Possibly these are the earth archetypes to which our (unconscious) psyches already attribute meaning, that resonate with the deepest possibilities within us. In its attempt to be made manifest, the soul takes every opportunity to resonate with any element of nature that stirs it. As we offer our attention to the world, we discover the beings to which we are most drawn. Our fascination with a facet of nature is how our souls say “Yes!” to an earth archetype that we, as individuals, especially tune to. As we open ourselves to that element of wildness, we discover a quality of our own soul that longs to be embodied in the world, sung to the world, danced, cried, celebrated. The earth provides us with not only the means to be physically born into this world but also the spiritual means to recognize our deeper identities.

THE ART OF BEING LOST

The art of being lost is not a matter of merely getting lost, but rather being lost and enthusiastically surrendering to the unlimited potential of it. In fact, using it to your advantage. The shift from being lost to being found (in a new, unpredictable way) is a gradual and indirect one. The way to encourage that shift is to first accept that you don’t know how to get to the place you want to be and then opening fully to the place you are until the old goals fall away and you discover more soulful goals emerging. Then you are no longer lost, but you have benefited immensely from having been so.

 Consider for example being lost in the woods, something few people can imagine enjoying. Suddenly, the world has shrunk; here you are, sitting beside a stream in a forest. You don’t know which way home is. You call out. No one answers; or, only the stream, the wind, and the ravens answer. Maybe you panic, maybe you don’t. It sinks in that you are really lost. Gradually, you become aware that everything you can count on now is right here, within reach, and there’s no guarantee there will ever again be anything else. You could have spent your entire life on a meditation cushion to get to this radical place of present-centeredness, and now you are here courtesy of dislocation! Like a shipwrecked sailor on a tropical island, this is your world. What will you do with it? You’ve lost nearly everything you thought was important; the old goals are irrelevant, and yet, here you are. Now what?

This is precisely where you must eventually arrive, psycho-spiritually, for soul initiation: you must be willing to release your previous agendas and embrace the soul’s passion as you find it here and now. By arriving more fully in the present, through being lost and accepting it, your life suddenly suffers a radical simplification. Old agendas, beliefs and desires fall away. You quiet down inside and it becomes easier to hear the voice of the soul.

CONFRONTING YOUR OWN DEATH

 In order to bring your soul into the world, you must continuously loosen your beliefs about who you are. The realities of death will help with that loosening. Shadow work will help as well; in the process of reclaiming your wholeness, you will find many fragments of soul in the shadow, where the unconscious has hidden them to keep you from accidentally stumbling upon dangerous secrets. Romance, too, if you take it deep enough, will surely shatter the restrictive yet fragile shell of the ego. Discovering the mysterious core of your consciousness will do the same. And certainly, spirit has some things to say about your true identity. When it’s over, you’ll want to be confident you made your life something truly real.

You will, therefore, look Death in the face before IT comes calling for you. You will reach your trembling hand into the dark shadow behind you. You will say yes to the dying that is as much a part of romance as its joys. You will discover what remains of consciousness after the mind is quieted. And you will forge your own intimate relationship with the Divine.

Confronting your own mortality, intimately and bravely, imagined or vicariously witnessed in graphic detail, is a powerful soulcraft practice, possibly an essential one. The embodiment of soul that you seek is not going to go far if you are living as if your ego is immortal. Put more positively, your soul initiation will be rich to the extent you can ground yourself in the sober but liberating awareness of limited time. (this very moment may be your last). The confrontation with death is an unrivalled perspective enhancer. In the company of death, most desires of adolescence and the first adulthood fall away. What are the deepest longings that remain? What are the surviving intentions with which you might enter your second adulthood? The confrontation with death will empty you of everything but that kernel of love in your heart and your sincerest questions.

As Carlos Castaneda was taught by his teacher, the Yaqui sorcerer Don Juan: “ask death to be your ally, to remind you, especially at times of difficult choices, what is important in the face of your mortality. Imagine death as ever present, accompanying you everywhere just out of sight behind your left shoulder”.

In these ways, make peace with your mortality. One day you will find you are not so attached to your life being just one certain way. Then you will be better prepared to converse with soul and its outrageous requests for radical change.

Extracts from:

Plotkin, Bill. Soulcraft: Crossing into the Mysteries of Nature and Psyche.  New World Library. Kindle Edition.

REFLECTIONS FOR OCTOBER 2018

THE PAST AND THE PRESENT ARE THE PARENTS OF THE FUTURE

DEAR READERS

This is the birthday month for me and I want to celebrate the future of young men. I have two lovely sons – one will be 40 next year and we are celebrating his birthday next July in Lviv Ukraine, the other son will be 11 next year and will finish his middle school and enter grade 7 in a high school.

As the old sages say: “the past and present are the parents of the future”. So, in the past, for the young men the future was mainly entering the military and die for your country and then the future of these men ended on the “Flanders Fields”. The present political correctness or what I call war on men because it is mainly focusing on men and it has created an environment of blame that is leading to a possible victimhood culture where young me are heading to escape from this “witch hunt”.

The writer Lisa Marchiano states: “Personal or collective attitudes that create an invitation to victimhood and infirmity can alter what we expect for ourselves. Embracing a status of oppression or affliction can be helpful, as it marshals needed care. However, when held onto too long, it can invite disengagement from life, and an avoidance of one’s fate. Worryingly, it also has negative implications for personal mental health, as it may foster a sense of helplessness." She adds that:

“Some current cultural trends award increased social status to those perceived as victims. Sociologists have posited that a new moral culture of victimhood is developing on college campuses. In such a culture, being a victim raises one’s standing and confers virtue, in part because it mobilizes protection and support from powerful third parties. The increased status of victimhood may account for the rise in “digital self-harm” that researchers have identified when teens cyber-bully themselves.

Victimhood culture rewards us when we are aggrieved, helpless, and weak. It therefore encourages us to experience ourselves as being at the mercy of external forces beyond our control, which, as we have seen, may have negative consequences for mental well-being”.

How can a free society like Australia and Canada stop this so called ‘cultural wars’ against men of all backgrounds? For example; Last week in Australia illiberal censors tried to stop Nigel Farange (a British politician) from speaking at a popular gathering by describing him as a racist. They failed. They attacked cartoonist Mark Knight depicting the angry Serena Willimas giving a big temper tantrum and blaming the umpire Carlos Ramos for her loss to the Japanese player Naomi Osaka. Much negativity is depicted in the social media about Dr. Jordan Peterson, the Canadian professor for openly challenging the self-appointed ‘culture warriors’. This virulent movement is creating a bad future in the minds of young men and as early as 12-year-old boys are suffering of extreme anxiety.

An October 2017 New York Times article entitled “Why Are More American Teenagers Than Ever Suffering from Extreme Anxiety?” looked at the rising tide of teen anxiety in the United States. Increasing academic pressures, the advent of smart phones, and ubiquitous social media use were explored as potential contributors to increasing teen anxiety, but the article implicated another factor as well – school cultures that enable young people to avoid those things that make them uncomfortable. Special educational plans address student anxieties by allowing kids to leave class early, use special entrances, and seek out 'safe spaces' when they are feeling overwhelmed. A therapist interviewed for the Times article worries that these kinds of “avoidance-based” accommodations only make anxiety worse by sending the message to kids that they are too fragile to handle things that make them uncomfortable.

That is the ‘solution’ that children are adopting not only by feeling outside the flow but also unconsciously registering the general hate of the anti-male culture today.

What is the actual clear choice for a better future? Jonathan David Haidt, an American political psychologist and Professor of Ethical Leadership at New York University's Stern School of Business offers ideas for resolving this crisis of youth today: He suggests that we need to open young minds to the wonder of new and challenging ideas that support and help counteract against the many ‘false news’ and blaming games. He developed the OPEN MIND app to stop the victim mentality that creates so much anxiety in the young men. He is behind the Heterodox Academy that has called upon 1,400 academics that are standing for free thinking and positive psychology.

Such projects are aiming at developing greater resiliency in the young people thus allowing them to navigate the present world more freely. I recommend the LetGrow.org web page set up by Lenore Skenazy to connect free thinking parents and teachers to the possible new future for our world.

Creating a society in which we are encouraged to confront anxiety and face difficult realities matters not just for the mental health of individuals, but also for our collective well-being. In the world that soon awaits us, humankind will desperately need those individuals willing to rise from their beds. The challenges that loom ahead will require us to set aside timidity, weakness, and victimhood and claim instead agency and boldness, no matter how grim the odds.

Lisa Marchiano

See youtube speech by Dr. Jonathan David Haidt

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3H20jwYq8WI

SEPTEMBER 2018 BLOG

WHERE TO ADAM? -  ON MEN’S LIBERATION

“Men's liberation has not happened yet. Not only women, but men also need a great liberation movement – liberation from the past, from the slavery of life-negating values and social conditionings that have been imposed upon humankind by all the religions for thousands of years. Priests and politicians have created a guilt-ridden man who is alienated from himself, fighting a permanent inner war that pervades all areas of his life – a conflict between body and soul, matter and mind, materialism and spirituality, science and religion, man and woman, West and East. Every man, from his early childhood, is being conditioned to function and survive in an efficiency-oriented, competitive world, and he is pressured from the moment he enters school to join the ambitious struggle and race for money, success, fame, power, respectability, and social status. As a small child he learns to adopt the goals and values of his parents and teachers, his peers and those set up by the society as “role models,” without ever questioning them. Thus, he becomes distracted from his true nature, his original being, and he loses the capacity for unmotivated joy, childlike innocence, and playful creativity. He is cut off from his creative potential, his ability to love, his laughter, his lust for life. Before long, his senses are deadened, and his emotional life is repressed. He loses access to his own innate feminine qualities of feeling, gentleness, love, and intuition, and becomes a head-oriented, efficient, unfeeling robot. Society teaches boys to grow up to become “strong men,” to suppress their feminine qualities of softness and receptivity, love and compassion.” OSHO

The First Man Adam is the mythical man, and every man is Adam-like. Every childhood is in the Garden of Eden. Every child is as happy as the animals, as happy as the primitive, as happy as the trees. Have you watched a child running in the trees, on the beach? – he is not yet evolved as a human. His eyes are still clear, but unconscious. He will have to come out of the Garden of Eden. That is the meaning of Adam's expulsion from the Garden of Eden – he is no longer part of the unconscious bliss. He has become conscious by eating the fruit of the tree of knowledge. He has become man. It is not that Adam that was once expelled; every Adam must be expelled, again and again. Every child must be thrown out of God's garden; it Is not a sin,  it is part of growth. The pain is that of growth. One must lose it to gain it again, to gain it consciously. That is man's burden and his destiny, his anguish and his freedom, man's problem and man's grandeur both.

The modern man is not suffering from his own sins, as the so-called religious preachers go on saying. He is suffering from centuries of cultural and religious dogmas stating what is the “truth”. Family, school, and the human environment mould the child into a reflection of their own beliefs.

FATHER

The father is trying to mould his son in a certain way that is not natural to him. The father is making him according to his own image, just as we say God did – he made man in his own image. Every father is doing that. But who wants to be made by somebody else in his own image? Everybody wants to be an individual. That is a very deep longing and desire in every being, to be himself, and the father is not allowing him to be himself. And the son is helpless because he is dependent for everything on the father; hence, he must suppress himself, be obedient.

  

MOTHER

How to love a mother? A mother must be loved in a totally different way. She is not your lover – and cannot be. If you become too attached to your mother, you will not be able to find a lover. Because of mother, a man couldn't move to another woman. So, it is part of growth that one must move away from the parents.

A mother must encourage the man to go away – that's what makes it delicate. A mother must make him strong so that he can go away from her. That’s her love. Then she is fulfilling her duty. If he is attached to the mother, then he is going against nature.

That’s why there is a very subtle antagonism between the mother and the wife of her son. All over the world It must be so, because the mother feels somehow that this woman has taken her son away from her. And that’s natural in a way – natural, but ignorant. The mother should be happy that some other woman has been found. Now her child is no longer a child; he has become a mature, grown-up person.  Based on: Osho. What Now, Adam?: The Book of Men

MEN

Where are the men – particularly the young men today? What identity are they seeking? Is there a need for a new ADAM?

Psychological research indicates that being highly identified with one’d gender role (as masculine or feminine) is detrimental to one’s health and wellbeing. This is especially true for men. Because of the old image of strong self-sufficiency, outer orientation, and body strength, men are reluctant to seek therapy, especially if the nature of their difficulties is psychological. It is evident that more men are likely to die of heart attack than women, suicide of men is almost twice as that of women and alcoholism kills men more frequently than women.

Traditional, programmed early belief systems inherited by many centuries, produce patterns that are no longer relevant today. In a study where men were required to conduct tasks that were considered specifically a traditional female task (like rolling a yarn into a ball), reported confusion, lack of self esteem and rejected the task. One suggestion by one researcher is to adopt the idea of ANDROGYNY. That may be the new Adam of the future.

Androgyny is the ability to experience the attributes that are ‘normally’ considered “masculine’ and “feminine” without regard for their association to a sexual category. This view of oneself is accompanied by a greater maturity in one’s moral judgement, a higher level of self-esteem, and a greater flexibility in adapting to a variety of social situations. Because Androgynous self-definition is neither masculine nor feminine, one is better able to remain sensitive and aware of changing constraints or social behaviours and adapt to those changes in a positive manner. However, to become fully human (whole), we must help young men to be able to synthesize both sets of characteristics masculine and feminine. It is evident that for both men and women to live as evolved-mature human beings is healthier and we trust that this is the future of humanity.

The responsibility of parents is to be able to raise their sons with an appreciation of the social values but also, it is equally important to raise sons who can stand against the collective attitudes and develop a strong sense of their masculinity.

Your reflections are welcome.

BLOG POST FOR AUGUST 2018

PESSIMISM AND OPTIMISM: TWO WAYS TO SEE THE WORLD TODAY

PESSIMISM

In the last few blog posts, I reflected on the idea of DYING. As we all know, there are many “little deaths” throughout our lives and we react to them according to our character or beliefs.

Dr. Irvin Yalom, in his book “selections from the Yalom reader” (Basic Books, 1998), devotes a whole chapter to the notion of Death, Anxiety and Psychotherapy. When we explore death, he states, we encounter four basic postulates:

1. The fear of death plays a major role in our internal experience; it haunts us as does nothing else; it rumbles continuously under the surface; it is a ‘dark ’unsettling presence at the rim of consciousness
2. The child, at an early age, is pervasively preoccupied with death, and his or her major developmental task is to deal with terrifying fears of obliteration.
3. To cope with these fears, we erect defences against death awareness, defences that are based on denial (as learned from parents) and that shape our character structure and that, if maladaptive, result in clinical syndromes. In other words, psychopathology is the result of ineffective modes of death transcendence.
4.  Lastly, a robust and effective approach to psychopathology may be constructed on death awareness.       

 My own reflections on death awareness was noted in the past blog post describing how different cultures understand and teach death awareness. Here the conclusion emerged is that most, if not all, cultures explain that: a) Life and death are interdependent; they exist simultaneously, not consecutively; death whirls continuously beneath the life’s consciousness and exerts a vast influence upon our experience and a constant as we go on living. b) Death is a primordial source of anxiety and as such, is the primary cause of psychopathology.

My own personal reflections on the reality of death is that we all may choose to practice Death Awareness from a positive or optimistic perspective or from a negative or pessimistic one. Like Dr. Yalom stated: Most people live with anxiety regarding death. To move from the anxiety (pessimistic notion) we need to develop exercises that will give us support with the positive or optimistic death awareness.

For example: The Sufi have a concept of ADAB. It refers to the idea of a “good and positive” attitude to life. The importance to acting beautifully. It is developing an inner sense of genuine respect and service to all. This must be in place in order to reflect our inner beauty that is based on LOVE.

 Another example, from the Buddhist tradition is the compassionate contact with the process of dying. Paul Lansburg states that: “We have constituted an “us” with the dying person. And it is “us”; it is through this specific power of this new and utterly personal contact that we are led toward the living awareness of our own having to die”.

Another way to work at death awareness is to examine the daily news media. How the media describes the “death: of a culture” (by wars); the slow death of a nation-state (you name one); the fall of a leader 'on his own sword' and so on. We need to pay attention to optimistic writers and news reporters and seek them out, so we can develop a balance between the optimistic view and the pessimistic one.

“Pessimism can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. By believing that the world is getting worse, Pessimism may even answer to our spiritual needs”.

“Enlightenment Now: The Case for Reason, Science, Humanism, and Progress", by Steven Pinker

OPTIMISM

In the book “Enlightenment Now,” Pinker hopes to return us to reality. During five hundred pages, he presents statistics and charts showing that, despite our dark imaginings, life has been getting better in pretty much every way. Around the globe, improved health care has dramatically reduced infant and maternal mortality, and children are now better fed, better educated, and less abused. Workers make more money, are injured less frequently, and retire earlier. In the United States, fewer people are poor, while elsewhere in the world, and especially in Asia, billions fewer live in extreme poverty, defined as an income of less than a dollar and ninety cents per day. Statistics show that the world is growing less polluted and has more parks and protected wilderness. “Carbon intensity”- the amount of carbon released per dollar of G.D.P.- has also been falling almost everywhere, a sign that we may be capable of addressing our two biggest challenges, poverty and climate change, simultaneously.

Pinker’s message is simple: progress is real, meaningful, and widespread. The mystery is why we have so much trouble acknowledging it. Pinker mentions various sources of pessimism - the “progress phobia” of liberal-arts professors, for instance - but directs most of his opprobrium toward the news media, which focus almost entirely on of-the-moment crises and systematically underreport positive, long-term trends. (Citing the German economist Max Roser, Pinker argues that a truly even-handed newspaper “could have run the headline number of people in extreme poverty fell by 137,000 since yesterday every day for the last twenty-five years.”) He consults the work of Kalev Leetaru, a data scientist who uses “sentiment mining,” a word-analysis technique, to track the mood of the news; Leetaru finds that, globally, journalism has grown substantially more negative.

The power of bad news is magnified, Pinker writes, by a mental habit that psychologists call the “availability heuristic”: because people tend to estimate the probability of an event by means of “the ease with which instances come to mind,” they get the impression that mass shootings are more common than medical breakthroughs. We’re also guilty of “the sin of ingratitude.” We like to complain, and we don’t know much about the heroic problem-solvers of the past. “How much thought have you given lately to Karl Landsteiner?” Pinker asks. “Karl who? He only saved a billion lives by his discovery of blood groups.” This is also written in Yalom’s Death Anxiety article as stated early.

SUMMARY

The set - point theory of happiness:

Many psychologists now subscribe to the “set point” theory of happiness, according to which mood is, to some extent, homeostatic: at first, our new cars, houses, or jobs make us happy, but eventually we adapt to them, returning to our “set points” and ending up roughly as happy or unhappy as we were before. Researchers say that we run on “hedonic treadmills”- we chase new sources of happiness as the old ones expire - and that our set points are largely immovable and determined by disposition. Some fundamental changes can affect our happiness in a lasting way - getting married, immigrating to a wealthy country, developing a drug addiction - but many life improvements are impermanent in character. Although food quality may have been worse in 1967, the pleasure of today’s better meals is intrinsically fleeting. More people survive heart attacks than in the past, but the relief of surviving wears off as one returns to the daily grind.

Anxiety story:

“A Bedouin was travelling through the desert, carrying a filled skin of water over his shoulder and weeping bitterly. When another traveller asked him why he was crying, the man replied that his dog was suffering terribly from thirst. The traveller asked why he didn’t give the dog a drink from his water skin, and the Bedouin said: “I couldn’t do that. I might need this water for myself”.

A Sufi story

JULY 2018 BLOG

EMASCULATION OF MEN

In the last Blog Post I reflected on the art of dying stating that there are many ‘little deaths’ during our lifespan: Divorce, accidents, death of a loved one etc. Now this reflection is about the ‘death of masculinity’ in our current culture.

Just examining the daily press or news on the internet (see the TIME magazine recent cover), you will find many attacks on the current male identity by way of denouncing men as the cause of all the problems. An example is the activities at many of the Australian Universities (the seats of freedom of speech and higher learning) is the so called “Culture Wars”. University professors are fired just because they are advocating rational western values and freedom of speech and debate.

We read about ‘Gender Activists’ that distort the English language by advocating the elimination of “He” for men and “SHE” for women offering pronouns that have no relevance to human identity. In the Australian newspaper of June 5^th, 2018, Kevin Donnell, author of the book “How Political Correctness is Destroying Australia” states: “Gender activists responsible for Marxist-inspired programs such as Safe Schools, argue that those who defend heterosexuality are guilty of being “heteronormative” and that gender-specific descriptions such as Husband and Wife must be replaced by Partner.” The fact that 98% of Australians (and most world free democracies) self-identify as male and female and argue that the natural order of things (life) is for men and women to procreate to ensure humanity’s survival is totally ignored. Also, they ignore the biology of all species where all living nature needs male and female to ensure the survival of this planet. 

Therefore, culture wars, PC and other attacks are creating an environment where men and particularly young men are losing a sense of Self and seek answers to how to behave as a man. To add to the trauma in masculinity, we are now reading scientific reports about the impact of biotechnology on men. Biotechnology is defined, as the “exploitation of biochemical processes, especially genetic manipulation of microorganisms for the production of antibiotics, hormones, etc.” Here are some facts related to the US research.

Here we have statistics on male sexual and reproductive system health that indicate the changes that have taken place so far:

* 30 Million men experience impotence in the United States, that is 25% of the adult male population of 120 Million.

* The erectile dysfunction drug market is expected to reach $3.4 Billion in 2019.

* Between 1973 and 2011, sperm count decreased by a whopping 60%. There are no stats available for the current date, but it is likely higher.

* Testosterone levels dropped by 20% in just 20 years. Testosterone is the primary male hormone, it plays a key role in the development of male reproductive tissues and also in muscle and bone mass and general health.

* The number of prescriptions for low testosterone supplements increased fivefold since 2002.

40% of men have low libido, or premature ejaculation. More men suffer from testicular cancer and enlarged prostates.  Gynecomastia, or “man boobs” affects up to 40% of young men.

* Many of the chemicals and toxins that are taken into the body with food, water and air have been designed for a specific biological effect:

They are endocrine disruptors, they mimic hormones in the body. They cause changes of the male reproductive system, making men more feminine.

Due to the bioaccumulation of these chemicals through the food chain, the public is exposed to high concentrations of these harmful substances. They are passed from the mother to the foetus and the process begins in the mother’s womb. In addition, men experience psychological problems like:

- men have gotten the worst deal psychologically in the USA and maybe elsewhere as well

- most therapists in US now are women that could have a blind spot in working with men

- women have had to learn to be assertive and men to be compassionate or passive

-  effects of circumcision on men is another study urgently needed today

- Genital developments are also influenced in boys by these endocrine disruptors, resulting in early puberty and smaller penises. This traumatises many young men

- concerns about men and women using porn to learn about sex is increasing

- the effects of the exposure of paedophilia worldwide now (including Hollywood, US Congress, Big Business elites, etc)….Most don’t know that this movement is worldwide and  has women involved as well as men.

 Here is a clear analysis of the emasculation of men in the USA as described by Paul Joseph Watson:

Whereas 50 years ago, advertising, Hollywood and television was filled with examples of positive masculine role models that young men could look up to, today’s entertainment industry routinely portrays men as clueless and bumbling oafs at best (think Homer Simpson, Everybody Loves Raymond, Married with Children) or at worst as aggressive sexual predators. Since advertising is primarily aimed at women, men in commercials are also now routinely depicted as either being emasculated losers or stupefied morons. Young men consuming this content grow up thinking that it is acceptable and even encouraged to aspire to these character traits. In doing so, they are robbed of their natural masculinity and find it extremely difficult to attract well-rounded women, who are rightly disgusted by such behaviour.

Second wave feminism was a creation of the establishment itself and at its core has little whatsoever to do with genuine concern about women’s rights. Radical feminism deliberately confuses gender roles and makes young men apprehensive about exercising their masculinity for fear of being seen as overbearing or aggressive towards women. This has contributed to an entire generation of “metrosexual” men who are promiscuous, unwilling to commit to a relationship and unable to fulfil a women’s basic needs for healthy companionship, destabilizing society and making it more difficult for women to find suitable long-term partners with whom to have children.

The radical feminist establishment promulgates the myth that men are paid more than women because of discrimination, feeding into feminist doctrines about patriarchal systems oppressing women in the workplace. In reality, the “wage gap” of around 19 per cent between the two sexes in the United States is explained by several reasons that have nothing to do with discrimination. The fact is that men work more hours and men seek less desirable jobs that pay higher. As a result, men account for 93% of workplace deaths despite being only 54% of the workforce. 94% of workplace suicides every year are also men.

Statists, collectivists and their mouthpieces in the media and the establishment claim that western men (in particular white men) cannot express a valid opinion on any issue related in any way to a “minority” (such as feminism or immigration) because they have “privilege”. The “privilege” talking point is a stunt through which Marxist liberals and feminists attempt to shut down free speech. They are asserting the ludicrous notion that a man’s viewpoint has no value because of the colour of his skin, his gender or his country of origin. This is an inherently racist position, yet it is routinely used by leftists to shout down their ideological adversaries and silence male voices.

In both divorce and child custody proceedings, it is widely acknowledged that courts heavily favour women and discriminate against men. Men are routinely hit with onerous alimony payments even if women can work and earn a good pay check. Men only receive custody of their children in around 10 per cent of divorce cases in the United States. The ironic thing about this system is that it has primarily been instituted by other men, emphasizing again how the war on men is being waged not by women, but by the primarily male-dominated establishment.

Dissident feminist Camille Paglia recently wrote a Wall Street Journal piece in which she warned:

 “What you’re seeing is how a civilization commits suicide.” Paglia was referring to how the emancipation of masculine virtues by the establishment threatens to create massive destabilization in society due to less and less men being able to fill traditionally “masculine” roles in the jobs market. Paglia points to schools cutting recess, the effort to deny the biological distinctions between men and women, and the left’s characterization of controversial opinions as “hate speech” as examples of how masculinity is being deliberately eroded. “Masculinity is just becoming something that is imitated from the movies. There’s nothing left. There’s no room for anything manly right now,” warns Paglia, adding that young men have, “no models of manhood.”

Whereas women have numerous safety nets to turn to if they become victims of domestic abuse, men have virtually none, even though domestic abuse against men is a huge and growing problem. In the UK for example, 44 per cent of domestic abuse victims are male, while more married men suffer abuse at the hands of their spouse than married women. While domestic abuse against women is constantly highlighted by the mass media, domestic abuse against men is a complete non-issue.

Conclusion – welcome the totalitarian society

A totalitarian society can only survive if the male population has been gelded, emasculated and disenfranchised. With this natural bulwark against tyranny removed, the elite can centralize power and pursue collectivist tyranny unopposed. Therefore, men and masculinity are under assault on every level – and why both men and women should join forces to fight back against this common enemy.

Paul Joseph Watson is the editor and writer for Infowars.com and Prison Planet.com. He is the author of “Order Out of Chaos”.

Rodin: The fall of Man