Wednesday, April 30, 2025

REFLECTIONS YARO - MAY 2025


 

 

JORGE ROSNER 


  

                                                                                                          IN MEMORY OF JORGE ROSNER

                                                                                                 Born March 10, 1921 – died May 14, 1994.

 

Jorge Rosner, American Therapist, institute director, deceased. Member, Adult Education Council, Chicago, 1970-1972; founding fellow, board directors, Oasis Midwest Center for Human Potential, 1966-1994; founding member, Institute of Psychiatry, Northwestern University, Chicago, 1976. Member Contemporary Forum, Institute of Psychiatry, Northwestern University (founding member).

 Achievements

Jorge Rosner has been listed as a noteworthy therapist, institute director by Marquis Who's Who.

Jorge Rosner, American Therapist, institute director (deceased). Member, Adult Education Council, Chicago, 1970-1972; founding fellow, board directors, Oasis Midwest Center for Human Potential (see history), 1966-1994; founding member, Institute of Psychiatry, Northwestern University, Chicago, 1976. Member Contemporary Forum, Institute of Psychiatry Northwestern University.

Background

Jorge Rosner was born on March 10, 1921, in New York City. Son of Samuel and Anna (Blumental) Rosner.

Spouse:

Lisbet Trier

Spouse:

Charlotte Francis Heller

Children:

Cindy Ann Rosner

Ellen Sue Rosner

 

Education

Master Mechanic, Academy Aeronautics, 1941; student, Cleveland Gestalt Institute, 1967-1970.

Career

Superintendent training international division, Trans World Airlines, Wilmington, Delaware, 1946-1948; manager store operations, Darling Shops, Inc., New York City, 1952-1953; president. Display by Jorge (displays and designs), Chicago, 1953-1967; founding fellow, treasurer, member of faculty, Gestalt Institute Chicago, 1968-1994; also, director. President, founder, The Center, Gestalt counselling, Chicago, 1970-1994; chairman, executive director, Gestalt Institute, Toronto, Ontario, Canada, 1972-1994; chairman, director training, Gestalt Institute, Amsterdam, Netherlands, 1973-1994; director, chairman training, Gestalt Institute Scandinavia, Norway-Denmark-Sweden member of faculty, Northwestern University Institute Psychiatry, 1973-1994; member of faculty, Gestalt Institute, Brisbane, Australia, 1983; founder, executive director, International Gestalt Institute, 1981-1994. Guest faculty, Gestalt Institute, Denver, 1970, 71, 72, Trollegen Rehabilitation Centre, U of Stockholm, 1973.

 

Membership

Member, Adult Education Council, Chicago, 1970-1972. Founding fellow, board directors, Oasis Midwest Centre Human Potential, 1966-1994. Founding member Institute of Psychiatry, Northwestern University, Chicago, 1976.

 

HUMANISTIC AND TRANSPERSONAL STORY

This article is meant to provide background to Jorge Roner's active founder and teacher years and contributions to the development of the Humanistic Therapies field.

The humanistic and transpersonal work (along with the existential and somatic traditions) began to become established as an organized tradition, or rather traditions, in the 60’s and 70’s, initially in California, and especially in and around San Francisco. Before that, Maslow (from 1954) and Rogers (from 1940) had been primarily responsible for formulating the humanistic tradition, along with May, Murray, Goldstein, Angyal, Allport, Murphy, Jourard, and others in the holistic and existential fields. Maslow, Sutich, and Grof are the primary movers of the transpersonal tradition, as it manifested in the 60s in California, but James, Freud and Jung can be considered precursors, while Assagioli in Italy is related, and Tart, Vaughan, Walsh, and Wilber are later prominent figures, particularly Wilber. The transpersonal and humanistic fields have complex, multicultural roots in philosophy, spirituality and the arts from both Western and Eastern cultures.

The beginning of the establishment of these fields as distinct traditions was through correspondence, meetings and then conferences with interested individuals, initially in the 30’s and 40’s, publication of books and papers throughout the 40’s and 50’s, then establishment of organizations such as the Association for Humanistic Psychology (1962) and the Association for Transpersonal Psychology (1972). Stan and Christina Grof began to hold international transpersonal conferences in the early 70’s, and, in 1978, the International Transpersonal Association was established. Div 32 (Humanistic Psychology) of the American Psychological Association was established in 1971 through the work of Gibbon, Ellis, Harari, and others.

During the 70’s, various graduate schools were established (such as the California Institute of Integral Studies, Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, Saybrook Graduate School and Research Centre in San Francisco, Pacifica Graduate Institute in Santa Barbara, Naropa University in Boulder), many of whom are now fully accredited, degree granting institutions. There are approximately 20 accredited graduate schools in the US. Some psychology departments also began to include these themes, and some became specifically focused on these traditions (especially the University of West Georgia, Sonoma State University, Seattle University, Duquesne University).

Esalen was an important centre starting in the 60s, where encounter (Schutz), gestalt (Perls), holotropic breathwork (Grof), and other human potential traditions were established, as well as hosting people such as Bateson and Campbell. Primal therapy became prominent in the early 70’s, with Los Angeles, New York, and Toronto being the main centres. Bioenergetic institutes began to be established in North America and, in Europe, Reichian and neo-Reichian training was established, Malcolm Brown being a leading exponent. Existential psychology became prominent, both in the US, through May, Bugental and others, and in England, where Laing extended this to social criticism, particularly of the mental health model itself. Gestalt centres began to be established around North America, including Toronto.

The Human Potential movement extended these ideas into the culture in general, through an elaboration of psychotherapy and spirituality as personal growth and consciousness expansion, into liberation of the whole person (including liberation of the body, emotions and sexuality), consciousness raising and feminism, activist politics, social justice concerns and deconstructivist social change, egalitarianism, a return to nature and environmentalism, and an appreciation of alternative ways of knowing and being from other cultures, including Eastern and indigenous spiritual traditions and epistemologies. Counter culture politics and social activism included a focus on mental health, education and organizational development. Although these themes have been carried in many ways in the North American counterculture of growth centers and organizations such as AHP and ATP, the main academic and theoretical work of study, writing, research has been done through graduate schools and university departments, with publishing carried by journals such as Journal of Humanistic Psychology, Journal of Transpersonal Psychology, Voices, Gestalt Journal, and publishing houses such as Spring, JP Tarcher, Shambhala. In the 70’s, Marilyn Ferguson’s newsletter Leading Edge brought news of developments in systems and chaos theory and the evolutionary paradigm out from the scientific tradition into the professional, holistic counterculture.

Toronto in the 70’s was an active center for the gestalt, primal, encounter, bioenergetics, Jungian and Reichian traditions, with, for example, the Clarke Institute of Psychiatry conducting encounter groups and hosting R.D. Laing’s colleague, David Cooper. Several teaching and professional practice centers were established. Dr. Thomas Verny was prominent at this time, in both encounter and primal, through the Centre for Holistic Primal Therapy. Jorge Rosner and Dr.Harvey Freedman, having trained with Perls, established the Gestalt Institute of Toronto, and Ken Allen and Carl Moore established the Institute for Bioenergetic Analysis. The Toronto Institute for Human Relations extended these concerns into training for ministers. Marion Woodman, Fraser Boa, Daryl Sharpe, Jim Shaw, and others established the C. G. Jung Association of Ontario. Ted Mann, at York University, carried Reich’s work. There was a chapter of AHP established in the 70’s, with Connie Croll-Young (later Crystal Hawk) and Peter Campbell being the chief organizers. Therafields was a therapeutic community model for this work, with participants living together in communally operated houses that were also therapy centres. Psychedelic therapy for alcoholics was attempted by Dr. Gordon Bell at the Donwood Institute in the 60’s as part of his dialogical, holistic, caring community approach that he eventually brought to Bellwood Health Services.

These traditions did not go on to become generally established at the tertiary education level in Toronto, as they have done in the US, with some exceptions. Les Greenberg, for example, of York University Department of Psychology, has, with others, combined Gestalt, Rogerian and existential models to establish Emotion Focused Therapy, which has become an internationally recognized tradition. In the 70’s, Dr. Verny and others, established the tradition of pre- and perinatal psychology, initially based on experiences from the primal tradition in which clients regressed to what seemed to be birth and womb experiences and, in the work of Farrant, Chamberlain, and others, back to conception. Later, this tradition became focused in a broader way on pre- and perinatal psychology and health without so much emphasis on regressive psychotherapy. Santa Barbara Graduate Institute now grants degrees in this field, based largely on the initiative of Verny, who established the first degree in the field at St. Mary’s University of Minneapolis. The Ontario Institute for Studies in Education (OISE) has several programs and departments that include a focus on transformative learning, holistic curriculum, creativity and the arts, embodied knowing, spirituality, indigenous culture, feminism, environmentalism, community organization, global change. The University of Windsor graduate program in adult clinical psychology has psychodynamic, experiential, and emotion-focused psychotherapies courses.

In the mid-70’s the Canadian Holistic Medical Association was established in Toronto, and, later (1997), the Ontario Society of Physicians for Complementary Medicine, to bring a more whole systems focus into health care, with particular attention to the psychological and spiritual dimension of health and drawing on the natural world for healing modalities. The Ontario College of Naturopathic Medicine was established in the late 70’s as a postgraduate program for chiropractors, medical doctors, and dentists. In the early 80’s this became a full-time, four-year program graduating naturopathic doctors. Naturopathy and homeopathy are now being regulated, and the Ontario (now Canadian) College of Naturopathic Medicine has several hundred students conducting research in many areas, such as workplace stress. There has been an annual energy psychology conference in Toronto for the last 10 years, organized by Sharon Cass-Toole of the Canadian Association for Integrative and Energy Therapies (CAIET). 


A poem to Jorge Rosner - died 4am May 14, 1994, Toronto, Canada

WHAT NOW?

A year of sorrow, grief and loss

Has come upon my soul

The final string is broken

Leaving no trail, no link

Alone is not a thought

It is a feeling of despair

That comes when least expected

Foolishly, I fill my glass of time

With work, adventures, and desires

While slowly creeps - closer

Like a night prowler

DEATH


















 

Thursday, March 27, 2025

APRIL 2025 BLOG - REFLECTIONS YARO

 

BEING RESILIENT


The greatest challenge has always been the risk of becoming our genuine selves in a world that tries to turn us into everyone else or scare us into believing things that are simply untrue. Genuine resilience begins in the depths of the individual soul, and this is the struggle that we came here for.

 Qualities like courage, compassion, wisdom and creative vision tend to manifest more fully when something challenges us at an existential level. Human resiliency involves a capacity to awaken further and grow wiser precisely amid a crisis.

 More than the ability to withstand adversity, true resiliency involves a creative vulnerability that allows us to both “spring back” and “leap forward.” To avoid overwhelm and find meaningful ways forward, we need to tap the resources of our souls which connect to the timeless roots of imagination and the endless energies of creation.

 

 

The Nature of Inner Resilience

Dynamic, not fixed: Resilience can change depending on life stage, experiences, and support systems.

Rooted in self-awareness: Knowing your emotional responses and limits helps regulate stress.

Connected to meaning-making: Resilient people often find meaning or purpose in adversity.

Intertwined with vulnerability: Being resilient doesn’t mean being invulnerable—it means having the courage to face emotional pain and still move forward.

Supported by relationships: Even inner strength is nurtured through connection with others.

 

How to Achieve and Strengthen It

Here are practical ways to build inner resilience:

1. Develop Emotional Awareness

2. Recognise your feelings without judging them.

3 . Practise mindfulness or journaling to stay in touch with your inner experience.

4. Cultivate a Growth Mindset. See setbacks as opportunities to learn, not as personal  failures.n Ask yourself: “What can this teach me?” instead of “Why me?”

5. Build Self-Compassio 

- Be kind to yourself in moments of suffering.-

- Speak to yourself as you would to a close friend.

6. Strengthen Support Systems -

- Stay connected to people who uplift and understand you.

- Share your experiences—resilience grows through shared stories.

7. Practise Acceptanc

- Accept what cannot be controlled or changed.

- Resilience grows when we stop resisting reality and start responding to it with clarity.

8. Take Care of Your Body

-Physical well-being deeply influences mental strength.

- Sleep, nutrition, movement, and relaxation are foundational.

9. Develop Meaning and Purpose

- Engage in activities that align with your values.

- Service to others, creativity, spiritual exploration, or personal growth can help anchor your sense of purpose.





 

Tuesday, February 25, 2025

MARCH 2025 - FROM DARKNESS TO LIGHT

 MARCH 2025 BLOG

 

 

The name of March comes from Martius, the first month of the earliest Roman calendar. It was named after Mars, the Roman god of war, and an ancestor of the Roman people through his sons Romulus and Remus. This month - Martius was the beginning of the season for warfare, and others mirrored the festivals held in his honor. During the month of October, when the season for these activities ended, Martius remained the first month of the Roman calendar year perhaps as late as 153 BC, and several religious observances in the first half of the month were originally New Year's celebrations. Even in late antiquity, Roman mosaics picturing the months sometimes still placed March first. In the northern parts of the world, March is the month that announces the coming out of winter darkness and rituals were common to bring light like building fireplaces on the land to announce that from darkness comes the light.





The Wisdom Within Darkness 

Darkness is often feared and misunderstood, associated with negativity, danger, and the unknown. However, darkness is not inherently bad; it is a space of transformation, introspection, and hidden wisdom. Just as the night sky holds stars and the depths of the ocean conceal vibrant life, darkness contains light and insight that can lead to growth and understanding. 

In many philosophical and spiritual traditions, darkness symbolizes the journey inward—a time for reflection and self-discovery. When we embrace darkness, whether in the form of challenges, solitude, or uncertainty, we often uncover truths about ourselves and the world. For instance, in difficult times, people develop resilience, empathy, and wisdom that they might not have gained in perpetual comfort. Darkness, in this sense, is a teacher, guiding us toward deeper knowledge and inner light. 

Moreover, light and darkness are not opposites but partners in balance. Just as the dawn follows the night, insight emerges from the struggle. The yin-yang philosophy illustrates this duality, showing that within darkness, there is always a spark of light. Without contrast, we would not appreciate brightness, joy, or clarity. Even in nature, seeds must first be buried in the dark earth before they can grow toward the sun. 

Ultimately, darkness is not something to be feared but embraced as part of the human experience. It is within the unknown that creativity, resilience, and wisdom flourish. By recognizing the light hidden within the shadows, we can transform fear into understanding and challenges into opportunities for growth. At this time, when politics and wars are dividing and destroying places like Ukraine, we need experienced Elders to guide our youth.

Wisdom, Not Just Knowledge: Guiding the Young

Elders play a crucial role in shaping the lives of young people, but their greatest gift is not simply knowledge—it is wisdom. While knowledge consists of facts, skills, and information, wisdom is the deeper understanding of life gained through experience, reflection, and insight. Young people today have access to vast amounts of knowledge through technology, but they truly need wisdom from elders to navigate life's complexities. 

Wisdom allows elders to offer guidance that goes beyond mere instructions. It helps them teach young people about patience, resilience, and the importance of values. For example, an elder may not just tell a young person how to achieve success but also teach them the importance of integrity, balance, and purpose. Wisdom also enables elders to listen, understand emotions, and provide meaningful support rather than just giving directives. 

Moreover, wisdom helps elders adapt their teachings to the unique struggles of each generation. The world is constantly changing, and young people face challenges different from those of the past. Instead of simply passing down old ways of thinking, wise elders use their experiences to offer relevant insights, helping young people apply timeless lessons in a modern context. 

Ultimately, young people do not just need answers—they need perspective, encouragement, and a deeper understanding of life. Elders who lead with wisdom rather than just knowledge can inspire and empower the next generation to make thoughtful choices and build meaningful lives.





SOULCRAFT

The Power of the Soul: Strength and Guidance in Life

The concept of the soul has long been a source of strength and guidance for people seeking purpose, resilience, and inner peace. While physical and intellectual abilities have limits, the soul represents a deeper, limitless source of wisdom and strength that can help individuals navigate life’s challenges. Recognizing and connecting with the soul allows people to find meaning, make ethical decisions, and develop an unshakable inner foundation. 

The soul is often associated with one’s true essence—the part of a person that is not defined by external circumstances but by inner values, purpose, and connection to something greater. When people feel lost or overwhelmed, turning inward to their soul can provide clarity and direction. For instance, during hardship, the soul reminds individuals of their deeper purpose, allowing them to endure difficulties with grace and resilience. Additionally, the soul fosters a sense of inner peace and self-trust. In a world full of distractions and pressures, people often seek validation from external sources. However, by listening to the soul’s quiet wisdom, individuals can find guidance from within rather than relying solely on societal expectations or fleeting trends. This inner guidance helps people make choices aligned with their true values, leading to a more fulfilling and authentic life. 

Moreover, the soul connects individuals to others and a higher purpose. Many spiritual traditions emphasize that the soul is not just personal but also linked to a greater universal energy. This understanding fosters compassion, empathy, and a sense of belonging, giving people the strength to support others and find meaning beyond personal struggles. 

In essence, embracing the concept of the soul empowers people to draw strength from within, make wise choices, and live with greater purpose. It serves as a guide through life’s uncertainties, offering resilience, peace, and a profound sense of direction.





 

 Dear reader, welcome to make your comments, please.


Yaro Starak

 

Thursday, January 30, 2025

Embracing Change and Growth and Defending Liberty - February 2025

 





Introduction

February, often seen as a month of transition, bridges the gap between the harshness of winter in the north and the promise of spring and summer in Australia. It is a time for reflection, growth, and the embrace of new beginnings. We also celebrate the Chinese New Year, the year of the Snake.

Personal Growth and Reflections

February provides the perfect opportunity to pause and reflect on our personal growth. February allows us to look inward, evaluating our goals and the progress we've made thus far. It's a time to acknowledge our achievements, no matter how small, and to reassess our plans with renewed clarity and determination.

Setting Intentions

Setting intentions can be a powerful tool in guiding our actions and decisions. Take a moment to write down what you hope to achieve this month. Whether it's focusing on self-care, building relationships, or advancing in your career, clear intentions can serve as a roadmap to success.

Embracing Challenges

Challenges are inevitable, but they also present growth opportunities. As we encounter obstacles, it's essential to maintain a positive mindset and approach each challenge with resilience. Remember, it's often through adversity that we discover our true potential.

Acts of Kindness

Kindness has the power to transform not only the lives of others but also our own. This month, make a conscious effort to perform acts of kindness, big or small. From sending a thoughtful message to volunteering your time, these gestures can have a profound impact on our collective well-being.

Celebrating Love

February is also a time to celebrate love in all its forms. While Valentine's Day often highlights romantic relationships, it's essential to recognize and appreciate the love we share with family, friends, and even ourselves. Take time to express gratitude and affection to those who bring joy and meaning to your life.

Finally, as we navigate through February, let us embrace the changes it brings and the growth it fosters. Reflect on your journey, set clear intentions, and cherish the connections that enrich your life. By doing so, we can fully appreciate the beauty of this transformative month and the endless possibilities that lie ahead.

 

Here is a statement by Michael Meade - as we approach the new year with challenges about Justice, Liberty and Diversity being damaged by TRUMP.

This episode of Living Myth looks at the misuses of power, the dangers of arch narcissism and the ways that the dream of America is now being severely tested. An old proverb states that: Power lacks morals and principles, it only has interests, and the interests of the powerful are often at odds with the genuine principles the truth, and the kind of understanding needed to create community. The troubled times in which we now all find ourselves are the crucible in which we need to learn more about the psychology of power in order not to become discouraged and disempowered and fall under the rule of those who only see power as a force of dominance to be used in the pursuit of personal gain at the expense of the human community.

Before he was elected the first time, Donald Trump declared that he could shoot a person on Fifth Avenue and pay no consequences even for such a violent act. That was not simply an offhand statement of personal inflation, but rather a psychological revelation of an underlying sense of being above the law and beyond being accountable for recklessness, cruelty, and even violent crimes. Having been elected to a position of great power again causes him to further identify, not just with being a dictator or a king, but with being like a vengeful deity who can create and destroy at will and being god-like, he cannot be restricted, can do no wrong and cannot be held accountable.

Because arch narcissists are psychologically undeveloped, they tend to use black-and-white thinking and binary codes. Thus a person is either a winner or a loser, and you must either be blindly loyal or you are declared an enemy and can be considered evil. In that sense, the use of political power is always personal for Donald Trump. He may use the playbook of dictators and autocrats, but he does it in a dangerously personal way because narcissism is literally his personal signature as well as his fatal flaw.

This kind of imperial narcissism and threats of vengeance and retribution for disobeying were what the founding fathers fought against. And at this critical time when the delusional power seekers and the self-inflated oligarchs seek to replace the dream of unity through diversity with the sad old rule of "to the winners go the spoils," it becomes our calling, as those who seek freedom and justice for all that find ways to unite in diversity, reject the would-be dictators and petty tyrants who carry the flag of the false self in favor of the genuine dream that is always trying to re-awaken and become more conscious in the hearts of “We, the people.”

 

 



 

Friday, December 27, 2024

JANUARY 2025 BLOG - NEW YEAR SYMBOLS

 



 
 Image of Earth at Summer Solstice

         

January 2025 blog – Reflections Yaro

 

 Dear readers,

 Recently I have been reflecting on the symbolic meanings that we receive from our mother Earth. I find that these images are as ancient as the Universe. 

 Michael Meade, my mentor, states that at the beginning: “This is not just the dark time of the year, but increasingly dark times for everyone, especially for those who care for the souls of other people and for the well-being of the Earth we all live on.” He goes on to describe how ancient symbols and practices at the Winter and Summer Solstice served as a reminder of the cosmological connection between the human soul and the hidden unity of life. 

Symbols have the power to bring the mind and the heart together and connect us to the deepest truths of life. A Christmas tree can stand for the Tree of Life, as it represents both the still point at the center and the power of life to change and renew itself. Simply lighting a single candle in the midst of darkness can be a reminder of the eternal process of renewal and restoration that is an essential, yet easily forgotten aspect of all of life.

At this time, as we enter the new year - 2025, it is imperative for all humanity to connect to the images that indicate the hope and light we are beginning to reclaim from the darkness of wars, crises, and evil leaders.



The Tree of Life

 The Tree of Life symbolizes interconnectedness, growth, and resilience across cultures and traditions. Its roots delve deep into the earth, representing grounding and connection to one's origins, while its branches reach toward the sky, symbolizing aspirations and spiritual growth. This balance teaches individuals the importance of staying rooted while striving for personal and collective development. People can benefit from its meaning by embracing life’s cycles, fostering unity with nature and others, and finding strength in adversity, inspiring personal growth and harmonious relationships.                        


THE MEANING OF JANUARY IN HISTORY

  January (in Latin, Ianuarius) is named after Janus, the god of beginnings and transitions in Roman mythology.

Traditionally, the original Roman calendar consisted of 10 months totalling 304 days, winter being considered a month-less period. Around 713 BC, the semi-mythical successor of Romulus, King Numa Pompilius, is supposed to have added the months of January and February, so that the calendar covered a standard lunar year (354 days). Although March was originally the first month in the old Roman calendar, January became the first month of the calendar year either under Numa or under the Decemvirs about 450 BC (Roman writers differ). In contrast, each specific calendar year was identified by the names of the two consuls, who entered office on March 15 until 153 BC, at which point they started entering office on January 1.

Various Christian feast dates were used for the New Year in Europe during the Middle Ages, including March 25 (Feast of the Annunciation) and December 25. However, medieval calendars were still displayed in the Roman fashion with twelve columns from January to December. Beginning in the 16th century, European countries began officially making January 1 the start of the New Year once again—sometimes called Circumcision Style because this was the date of the Feast of the Circumcision, being the seventh day after December 25.

Historical names for January include its original Roman designation, Ianuarius, the Saxon term Wulf-monath (meaning "wolf month"), and Charlemagne's designation Wintarmanoth ("winter / cold month"). In Slovene, it is traditionally called prosinec; the name, associated with millet bread and asking for something, was first written in 1466 in the Škofja Loka manuscript.

SYMBOLS FOR JANUARY

 


Winter in the north



Garnet gemstone




Snowdrop (Galanthus) flower

 Here is an essay by Michael Meade reflecting on the New Year 2025.

 Although there can be no quick fix for all that troubles the world at this time, the aim of traditional New Year rites was to end the reign of the old year in order to begin everything anew. The idea was to follow the course of nature in which the world descends into darkness before the light and the energy of life begins to return.

 The old idea was not simply the turning over of a calendar, but the understanding that a capacity for transformation and regeneration resides at the heart of nature, at the center of the cosmos and in the heart of humanity as well. The point was not to be naive and deny problems that must be faced, but to return to the origins of creation and symbolically participate in the capacity of life to renew itself.

 For, small and insignificant as we may increasingly feel, we carry within our souls a spark that is connected to the galaxies and to the origins of creation. On one hand we are time bound, on the other we are secretly tied to eternal things that transcend the limits of time and place. By symbolically participating in the dissolution of time, ancient people were temporarily delivered from their faults and failings and had their original life potentials restored.

 Although this primordial sense of rejuvenation and renewal does not remove suffering or injustice from the world, it becomes more important if we are to avoid overwhelm and navigate the chaotic and exhausting times in which we live.

 We live amidst a shattering of paradigms that radically alter familiar patterns in both nature and culture. As the future of the Earth itself becomes increasingly uncertain the search for genuine knowledge begins with accepting the sense that we truly do not know what the New Year might bring. To find the kinds of insight and wisdom we most need, we must accept the condition of “not knowing” that parallels the uncertainty and darkness that appear before creation occurs.

 Inside all stuck situations there is a deep vulnerability that can lead to a release of unexpected imagination and inspired ideas. In Zen Buddhist traditions the practice of shoshin translates as “beginner’s mind.” Shoshin begins where received ideas and accepted patterns are left behind as an innate capacity to awaken from within begins with “not knowing.” The open and humble attitude of a beginner makes us less likely to simply repeat old patterns of behavior.

 While those who claim to be able to solve the complex problems we face may claim dogmatic certainty, the openness of the beginner is more likely to find the true nature of a situation. A principle idea in shoshin is that in the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s mind there are few. Thus, beginner’s mind offers a particular kind of wisdom based upon a willingness to be at the edge where life remains open to many possibilities and unrealized potentials.

In keeping with the sense of many possibilities, the ancient term for beginner’s mind has more than one meaning. Shoshin can also mean something or someone that conveys “genuine truth.” Thus, it can refer to a work of art or a person that is genuine and not a fake or an imitation. When we draw from the root of our deeper self, we become more authentic and able to act in alignment with the inner spirit and the genuine aim of our souls.

 As a practice, beginner’s mind can also involve the sense of forgiveness. For only when we forgive ourselves for mistakes and misdeeds can we let go of the ties that bind us and be released from the need to repeat the mistakes of the past. In that sense, not knowing, being open to change and forgiving ourselves and others turn out to be key ingredients in seeking to rejuvenate, start anew and be able to imagine and contribute to a better world.

 Something ancient and knowing is trying to catch up to us and being fully present when a moment in time breaks open to unseen possibilities depends upon practices like beginner’s mind that help us be authentic and original and able to start anew. In being more open and forgiving we become more able to unlock untapped capacities for creativity, flexibility, and resilience.

 In the open moments of life, we become connected to the heart of nature again and can sense what the ancients meant in saying that all of life is sacred, and that can be a grace in the world and at the edge of every moment.


Wednesday, November 27, 2024

DECEMBER 2024 REFLECTIONS.



 



STANDING ON THE EDGE OF LIFE




DECEMBER 2024 BLOG – REFLECTIONS YARO 


 Dear  reader, 

Today I am reflecting on the coming of the final day for 2024. I wonder how many of us are now shopping for a good ham or gifts for family? Has anyone spent some time reflecting on the meaning of Christmas? That a 33-year-old young man was killed on the cross for preaching love? 

 “Well, we may think: “This happened more than 2000 years ago, and we are now a new and more enlightened society. Yes and No is my answer. The current conflicts and wars in the Middle East and Ukraine, demonstrate that our societies continue killing and destroying innocent people. We are still as if STANDING ON THE EDGE! 

This reflection led me to a person who is writing and speaking about sacred ideas to help people attain a more enlightened mind. Her name is Joan Halifax. I am including her summary of her book and recommend you get it and read it as a Christmas message for all humanity today. 

 Standing At the Edge - by Joan Halifax Standing At The Edge explores Joan Halifax’s theory that there are 5 ‘Edge States’ – 5 internal/interpersonal qualities that are keys to leading a compassionate and courageous life. Halifax calls them ‘Edge States’ because over the ‘edge’ they have harmful flipsides. The 5 Edge States are: 

ALTRUISM: EMPATHY, INTEGRITY, RESPECT, and ENGAGEMENT, and their negative counterparts are pathological altruism, empathic distress, moral distress, disrespect, and overwork. There is also a final section on compassion. 

I thought (for various reasons) that Standing At The Edge was going to be about facing death, but I completely misunderstood the premise. I kept reading though because altruism, empathy, integrity, respect, and engagement are qualities I feel make for a good life, and are certainly qualities you need as a caregiver to someone who is dying. So why not. Take what you like and leave the rest.

 How to approach altruism: Direct your altruism from a place of selfless goodness and not out of fear, duty, obligation, or the need for social approval. Altruism aimed at “fixing,” “helping,” or “rescuing,” instead of serving is pathological altruism, which frequently leads to burnout. Notice if you are “othering” the object of your altruism. Aim instead to develop your sense of mutuality and compassion for others. Bear witness to suffering with courage and openness, and respond with care. 

 How to approach empathy: Empathy is our capacity to understand the physical, emotional, or mental experiences of another – to see through their eyes. If we overidentify with suffering, or can’t release the experience, we face empathic distress. Like other stress responses, there may be anxiety and emotional turmoil; we might feel numb or be filled with anger. In most cases, we withdraw. To pull yourself out of empathic distress make sure you are setting limits, offering your empathy unconditionally and without expectation, and recognizing the common good as well (to balance the negative). 

 How to approach integrity: To have integrity is to have a conscious commitment to honor strong moral and ethical principles – to abide by our values. When others violate our moral values we can experience moral suffering. Being unable to right a wrong, witnessing (or participating in) unconscionable acts, or experiencing extreme anger toward those who cause harm are all manifestations of moral suffering. Halifax recommends expanding your inquiry to include those who do the harm. Can you understand the place of suffering they acted from? Can you soften around that understanding? What are your values? Are you living your values? Create a list of your values/principles, and remember to maintain the intention to practice them. If the frustration and anger are directed towards yourself for harming someone else, reset your intention to live your values and take a moment to expand your kindness to include yourself. 

 How to approach respect: Halifax describes respect toward someone as honoring their autonomy and right to privacy, acting with integrity toward them, and being loyal and truthful to them. We can also have respect for principles and values and respect for ourselves. Disrespect may take the form of bullying, hostility toward others, internalized oppression, or exploitation. You can cultivate respect for others by engaging your empathy and compassion. Before speaking, ask yourself if what you’re about to say is true, kind, b

 How to approach engagement: Engagement refers to engagement with our vocation. To be engaged is to be absorbed, energized, and satisfied by our work and service – to be motivated. If pushed too hard though, if working from a place of fear, escapism, or compulsion, we can experience burnout, exhaustion, and cynicism. We get demoralized or feel ineffective. To avoid the burnout of overwork, we must approach our work with appreciation, gratefulness, humor, curiosity, and openness. Focus less on outcomes and more on benefiting others. Work and serve wholeheartedly. A note on compassion Halifax doesn’t think you can overdo it on compassion and that compassion is how to prevent “falling over the edge.” Halifax believes having genuine concern and a desire to end the suffering of others is the most universal source of joy and meaning in life. She describes three kinds of compassion:
 1) Referential compassion – the compassion we feel for others,
 2) Insight-based compassion – the compassion that comes forth from the moral imperative, and 
3) Non-referential compassion – universal compassion when the barrier between self and others dissolves. Throughout Standing At The Edge, Halifax returns to compassion as the way out of suffering

. Joan Halifax Joan Jiko Halifax is an American Zen Buddhist teacher, anthropologist, ecologist, civil rights activist, hospice caregiver, and the author of several books on Buddhism and spirituality. 
 Born: 30 July 1942 (age 82 years), Hanover, New Hampshire, United States Education: Tulane University Lineage: Zen Peacemaker Order; White Plum Asanga Teacher: Seung Sahn, Bernard Glassman, Thich Nhat Hanh